Do you ever feel like you have everything you wanted, but you are still not happy? Like nothing can satisfy you?
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This happens when you get everything you want, but not what you really need. Or is used as substitute instead.
in reply to hypercat54
Hello hope you are well sometimes we don't appreciate what we have untill we loose it and the saying happiness is wanting what we have not what we havnt🤔a lot of rich famous people have everything done everything been everywhere so they get bored and try drugs and same sex people, also often we are never satisfied and as humans always tend to want more, have a good weekend 🤗🐆🌻winter weather makes us all feel down
hypercat54 in reply to
Thank you HS dear. I still keep wanting to call you Curly 
I hate the winter with a passion and although I live in the South West which is warmer it never stops raining here and that wind that comes off the sea is wicked! I am just glad I am retired now and don't have to go out in it much.
I have forgotten what part of the country you are in. At least we rarely get snow here... xx
in reply to hypercat54
Hy HC call me curly if you want my hairs extra curly now I go swimming as drip dry mainly and not sure why it goes really tight curly whirly lol I remember you calling me that lol bless you, well it's night 6 of no alcohol I feel sick with fruit pastels and after 8 dinner mints lol got some none alcoholic wine may mix some alcoholic with it for pain relief my trigiminal nuralgia playing up real bad with the harsh cold north wind here in hull, easy York's about 2o mins from Humber bridge one side hornsea other, I've been posting my progress on the drink free sight, and chewing so many sweets didn't help I have sensitive gums too, let's count down now to spring about ten weeks to clocks change, I'm back living with mam as had dangerous binge drinking session couldn't handle been in my house anymore hope you are snug and warm 🤗😽xxx
Pixie has a bald patch from fight 🙀
hypercat54 in reply to
Dangerous binge drinking session? Tut tut and horror 
Well done and I wish I could do the same now 
It's quite a long while since I was able to with my copd as last time I felt I couldn't breathe and that was too scary! I ended up on my lung site panicking and several lovely members (it was late) stayed up with me until I had calmed down. Bless them.
I am a Northerner but have lived down South now for far too long to be able to put up with the weather and I am too nesh now. I don't envy you as Yorkshire is even colder than where I was born which was just outside Manchester. Actually it was Cheshire when I was born so I must be posh - not. Brrr. Have you had snow? Bet it's deep on the Moors.
I am glad you feel safer with your mum and it's really good you have such a great relationship. My mum was born in Castleton. xx
in reply to hypercat54
I'm not on the moars, yes I struggled to swim when drank night before effected my breathing have slight asthma the swimming expands my lungs and helps well I'm on just over half bottle wine felt so good after first half glass all my stress went my pain eased then something sad came on news I cried nothing wrong with couple glasses wine it's knowing when to stop night night hope to chat soon 🤗🐆🌛🍸🙄xxx
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Do you not like boiled sweets like glacier mints and fruits at all as we enjoy them Now and then!
Great answer my friend. How true xx
Yes. I have found it to be true.
I don’t know enough about your life to make a guess about what is causing your feelings.
Sometimes it’s a trauma history.
Sometimes it’s because you’re running from shame.
Sometimes it’s isolation from people.
Sometimes it’s comparing your life to the “picture perfect” lives of others.
Sometimes it’s because you need more focus on helping others.
Sometimes you need more exercise.
Sometimes you need to start therapy.
Sometimes you need to start medication.
Sometimes it’s something else.
♥️♥️♥️
in reply to Rafiki11
It's a matter of having a sit down and having a think about what it is that upsets you and why and go from there.
Sometimes we just keep running, until we realise that we may now have to reverse and start again and look into why we are running.🙃
I think what makes us truly happy is self-acceptance. Liking ourselves, warts and all. You can have all the external things you want, money, good job, relationship, good health etc, but if you aren't happy with who you are, then you will feel like there is a big hole inside.
And we don't have to change before we love and accept who we are.
Just my 2 cents...
I agree, if we don’t love ourselves we will never be happy, acceptance is the key word.👍
in reply to Arymretep
Hello M hope you have a nice Sunday keeping warm and one of your lovely Sunday roasts night 6 here or maby not on the no alcohol 🙄mam had a none alcoholic guineas we bought some wine none alcoholic and u got a alcoholic one to mix I'm fed up of fruit pastels for comfort and set my nuralgia off I was on a high yesterday after swimming but down today after some upset but got through the night nearly with no alcohol hoped to reach full week, as for me I love myself sometimes other times not as I feel I can be weak and often feel sorry for myself and I'm such a mood yo-yo need some sun I know that 🙄🤗😽🌻xxx
Arymretep in reply to
Hi , you’re doing well,👍. We all get our ups and downs, and this weather doesn’t help it’s so dark and dreary, If we can get through Jan and Feb we’ll ‘be ok 😊Ahh sun, me too I feel as if we’ve not been anywhere for ever, actually we’ve missed two years holiday , fingers crossed for this year 🤞
in reply to Arymretep
Hi I need a Holliday bit can't no one to go with and can't leave pixie 🙀
Rosepetal60 in reply to
Have you researched any catteries in your area. I don’t think he would mind too much if you found a good one. The good/ excellent ones are worth finding. The rest don’t love cats as we do.
in reply to Rosepetal60
Hi pixie is very possessive he would nip it he nips mam if she sits next to me if he wants to get up 😁🙀xx
Rosepetal60 in reply to
I remember you saying about the nipping. But he might be wary on a first visit to a Cattery whilst you had a couple of days off with or without a friend. Nice trip to the seaside. “ A change is as good as good as rest” as the saying goes.
in reply to Rosepetal60
This morning my sister in law and I have had a great morning in the city centre out shopping and picked up some great bargains!
Back in November we had our first weekend away to a b and b in Weston which we really enjoyed as we hadn't stayed away from home since we had a weekend away in Exeter back in February 2020 just before everything closed down in the March!
We are hoping to go away to Swansea in February for a Valentine's weekend away at a b and b there but have reserve things just in case that isn't possible that we can enjoy instead.
Perhaps Mandy could start with day visits out and then work up to staying away from home just to prove everything is fine and there's no reason to be worried.
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What about asking places if they accept cats and take Pixie on a lead?
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What about some nice days out first of all say to Hornsea and Bridlington and then see about going away for a few days just to prove to yourself everything is fine and there's no need to be worried?
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Thanks we have no transport and I can't go shop without him been anxious he sits waiting at door I've had odd days at seaside but he's a dog cat I couldn't leave him and wouldn't want to I love him so much were a matching pair he's my soul mate lol just wish he'd stop wearing Mr gear lol 😁🙀
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Last summer we enjoyed some great days out on the train to the lido ponty, Neath abbey and Swansea to some museums there and a picnic in the beach there and a picnic on the beach at Barry island as well.
I feel strongly that the best thing to do is take advantage of what's available rather than do nothing and become one of life's Victims!
milesmania I think that happens to many of us. It's an emptiness we can'tseem to fill with having things and even having that special someone in your life.
That satisfaction and fulfillment must come from us alone. No one or nothing
can substitute that need (as hypercat stated) xx
in reply to Agora1
Think the solution is Buddhism deep mediation when learn to mediate properly we find contentment for me now it's a bottle of wine after 5 nights with none 🙄🍸hope you are well how's your new year going I was ok this week now back at mam's but got really upset today been over sensitive I fancied drink this afternoon even but over came it wasn't that bothered tonight but had bad nuralgia pain from too many fruit gums and sugar keeps me awake 🙄why is life so hard xxx
Arymretep in reply to
You’re so right life is hard, especially as we get older, been trying to get a Drs appointment for a week, it’s a nightmare , finally got one for Monday but only on the telephone,😳I don’t think drinking once a week will harm you if you can stick to that , P has cut down to just on Saturday night because of his sugar levels.
in reply to Arymretep
I know it's a telephone call to try get one then they say all gone go to drop in centre I cant drink much at mam's so I'm ok I'm hungry but my tums bad with all them sweets lol night night oh my bladders playing up too 🙄thumbs knee nuralgia xxx
Arymretep in reply to
Oh dear you're in a bad way😟 I'm back on the lanzoprazole too eating too much cake over Xmas ! Hope we get some sleep tonight anyway. 😘
I had too many sweet waffles and cake ! I need to hide the rest of the fruit cake sections on a high shelf in the pantry . Mince pies are in the freezer but need hiding further down 🙂
I actually gave the cakes I had left from Xmas to my niece and her family to stop me from eating any more 👍
in reply to Rosepetal60
We gave some items to the local food bank to put them on for a while.
It's a disgrace isn't it in a rich country like this that there's a need for food banks!
Rosepetal60 in reply to
I’ve searched in the past for a local food bank that takes food in but can’t find one. Will check again.
in reply to Rosepetal60
They have a spare food basket in Tesco's where you can put items in for the food bank.
Rosepetal60 in reply to
But not I should imagine food from other sources. Co op also have similar. And no doubt some others. I keep a few items in my car to give to people sitting on the streets asking for change. (£) I don’t know, but Im guessing they might take them to the night shelter.
Existing in reply to
Buddhism is not about finding contentment. It is about accepting suffering without trying to escape it.
To Agora1 and milesmania: I would definitely agree that happiness and even contentment never come for external things, and that with depression especially, its important to learn to accept yourself, and even more learn to really like and appreciate who you are. I'm a loner and I really enjoy my own company, but still have never felt excited about life. I look for things that give my life meaning, I like to learn and grow in character and experience. I know I'm strong, and have a lot to help others feel good about who they are. Whatever you do, never turn against yourself, theres too many people who will do that for you, lol.Consider what the most interesting things are about you and your life. Thats what I look for in people.
Always.
Yes, most of my life I feel this way. I have always felt like life is overrated, even at its best. I don't understand why people cling to it. Fear of death maybe.
Yes, it's because you haven't realized yet that happiness is an inside job and not an outside one.
Design guy, if you meant me, thats not true at all, I know you you can't find happiness except when it comes from within. I just don't think life is worth living. I've already done my spiritual questing, and I have come to know there is a reason for me to be here, and I just hope my life comes to some value in my journey now and in the next life. I have always felt like I got left behind in this life, lol, like I'm already late for the next life, whatever plane of existence that form might take. Kind of like there's not much of interest for me here in this world. Kind of like a mundane movie I have no interest in.But that means I put a lot of effort into making it worth living.
Yes. I am having anxiety and depression. I have everything to be happy but it sucks the joy from your life. It also tends to make you beat yourself up because there seems to be no reason. Keep talking it out.
Personally I think happiness truly comes from within and loving yourself. And that can be hard, especially if you have outside voices that invade your thoughts and inner voice and make you feel that still isn’t enough.
Maybe we don’t actually have everything we want. Society has a way of getting in our heads and telling us you have this, this and this so you HAVE or SHOULD be happy; much like it tells us if you’re in a relationship you aren’t alone while that relationship may be unhealthy or toxic; if you fat that’s why you aren’t happy because fat is unattractive or whatever the case is; while people who are skinny get told to eat more.
I’ve learned to quiet those voices and be happy and content with me and my life and then everything else in my life just adds to it.
I have no clue if any of that makes any sense.
Have a good day ♥️
Yes you re right they all sing from the same hymn sheet don't they?
Back in September on the bereavement board I got accused of being bitter by another poster all because I dared to discuss anger and resentment that had come up when my dad died and a proper friend had said how no I wasn't being difficult in feeling like that it was a mask for pain and grief and bitter is anger over silly little things.
Maybe what I had said was bitter but I'm not always bitter though.
I had ended up saying how that poster was very stupid to have said that and another friend had said to me how i shouldn't let people like that upset me!
I feel a lot better now time has passed by and enjoyed my day out today in the city centre with my sister in law.
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