Lonely and socially anxious

[Wurzelcat]

I've never been one to have many friends & I've just finished with someone that I loved with all my heart.

Turns out he is a serial narcissistic cheat, he got with me when I was already vulnerable & now I have no confidence left in myself.

My family don't live locally and with covid I've become so socially anxious I don't go out now.

My loneliness is both physical & emotional, I really need a hug from someone 😔

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Don't worry, everything will be alright. We all are here for you. Sending virtual hug 🤗

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I honestly believe thousands if not millions of people due to Covid and with government lockdown have suffered in a similar way. Relationships have all been tested to the max with so many people in an unprecedented way. These are extraordinary times, with solitude and depression meeting an all-time high. When people write to you saying "don't worry? Or it will be ok ect" I personally always feel they will never actually ever know that for sure, they are just metaphors we all used to lessen the pain or blow but you and only you know how you feel and deal with the emotion you are going through. Part of the feelings you have are the loss of someone you were with. You will, in time, learn to block and suppress this emotion out altogether as you will choose to move forward from this. The other part where your confidence has been compromised. This hurdle needs input and noutouring, as it will affect you meeting new people if you allow it to overcome your outlook. In many ways, the only way to learn is by experience. It's not nice and sometimes it tears chunks out of you, but we all go down similar pathways. The older you get, the more chunks have been taken, as some people make one mistake after another. Look at yourself and try to figure out where you can go from here in a positive sense. Have you learned anything from this experience and what now are your vulnerabilities? It's all like a board game when all is said and done. Strategies, it just depends on how well you deal with your cards and to do it better the next time. Most of all, try not to be so hard or cruel to yourself. We are all human. most of all stay safe, try to stay well and keep your chin up x best of luck and Merry Christmas. reach out anytime if it helps x 👍

[Fluff155]

Feel for you. Got thrown out after 25yrs with a closet narcissist and feel unloved except for a few who have the same. Hope you get a hug some time soon we all need them from time to time

Jon

Sheffield

[Midori]

Oh, I feel for you, I had a husband like that but he committed suicide after losing his job and me taking the kids and going to a refuge. I couldn't handle the violence.

It took a long time to get over it, but it can be done, it just takes time, and distracting yourself. Find things to keep busy with, crafts, Outside interests

Cheers, Midori

[AdamFCastillo31]

hey, i can hear you, what are you going through. I know it's really hard but you have to get some courage to get out of this situation. Yes, you need someone to support your surrounding ( family or friends ) emotionally. Well, if you don't have any we are here for you, you can overcome this situation by knowing triggers and how to control them which you can learn through CBT ( cognitive behavioral therapy). You can also try the coping technique You Just Need to Think Positive.You Just Need to Face Your Fears.

Don't be sit back and quiet alone

I know it's hard for you to trust someone but trust me that's how you will learn.

I am sure this will help you a lot. Do get out of it as soon as possible.

[Work_in_progress]

Take time to heal YOU.We forget to do this for the longest time and then we find ourselves angry, depressed that we are angry and depressed, confused and lonely. It’s most important that you find a physical support group that you can go to and or Skype with. You need to socialize and the best way right now is to hit two fence posts with one stone, Skype with your support peeps. Don’t let yourself go without talking to three people, separately each week a day or so apart. Then you can pick up more friends to talk to or talk longer. Then you make goals to do between meet ups or Skype calls. It’s a perfect way to keep your spirits up.