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[Lookingforhope20100]

So my boyfriend is a little maybe a lot older then me (15) and thats not what I need help with. He makes me so happy and I've known him my whole life but at the same time I'm worried about annoying him or pushing him ya know like all I want to do is hangout with him but I don't want to move to fast and I don't want to push him into thinking he has to talk to me all the time Im 19 almost 20 so I'm still a girl in a lot of ways so my question is should I suck it up and be happy or drop him and go with my coworker that's a lot closer to my age and will still make me happy what do you think guys

[Sabbath1]

..which do you want? The co-worker who is same age could still be pushy or whatever your issue is with the old guy lol .

Just do whatever makes you happy.

[Veteran250]

Your nineteen going on twenty, you’ve known your boyfriend all of your life, I think the answer is in the first part of your post….. I don’t think after twenty years, you would be pushing it, unless of course you only got together recently….. I think you already know the answer to your question.

Tell him how you feel, then if you get unrequited love…. Move on!

Good luck🙂

[Midori]

I'm always uneasy about such a large gap in ages.

Even if it works out, you will probably find yourself as his nurse, as he gets into his late 60s /early 70s or develops Alzheimer's, or worse. You will still be relatively young, and may well grow to resent him.

I don't know how pensions work where you are, but it will be a huge gap, with him drawing pension and you presumably still working.

It will put a stop to many things that you still want to do, vacations, etc.

What will you do if you have a family with him? Does he already have another family after a divorce? Or is he still single? He's already in his mid 30s, and I think he'd have shown interest in marriage before this. He may think of you as a little sister rather than a prospective partner.

On the whole, men tend to age quicker and die younger than women.

Is this what you want from life?

I'm not trying to put you off, just trying to make you think about it without rose tinted spectacles. It won't be easy.

I really am not trying to rain on your parade here, but I think you need to do some very hard thinking. Maybe your co-worker is a better bet.

Cheers, Midori