Social skills help

[Rose23456]

I find myself being too polite with others. This makes it hard for me to connect with others genuinely and become real friends. For example, i went to a paint night with a few friends and i said "thank you for inviting me". Any tips on developing a warmer personality and not being too polite and distant? Anyone has the same experience? Also, how do i learn too talk more? Im usually quiet in groups and dont feel connected to others. Any tips on connecting with others and being genuinely myself with others?

[Sabbath1]

Id say to just be yourself. You seem like a genuinely kind person.

I'm not so great with social skills . Tend to be awkward af. Lol wish I was better help for yah

[Rose23456 in reply to Sabbath1]

Thanks me too lol

[Imaaan]

There is nothing wrong with being too polite especially in the world that we live in nowadays where basic manners have gone out the window for some. That said, I hear you for saying that its stopping you from being your authentic self when socializing. On the next outing you can always focus on one person in the group and engage them about the activity you're doing. For instance at paint night, I would have commented on my favorite paint job or asked open ended questions to hopefully get the ball rolling. Also I would have mentioned what I had enjoyed about the outing when I thanked the person who invited me. Its small talk but could lead to something. Starting out slow with others will open the doors to more deeper talks as the familiarity with others deepens.

Role playing with those you're closest to could possibly be helpful. Another option is that you can interact with the members on here or elsewhere online on more lighthearted posts to increase your confidence and hopefully apply it in real life. Just remember you have no need to impress anyone and be yourself because everyone goes to the toilet. Good luck at your next outing and hopefully on making meaningful connections.

[Opportunity in reply to Imaaan]

I really liked your ideas, Imaan! Especially the one about interacting on the “fun” posts here. I guess here is like a playground for practicing. 🥳🤩

[Imaaan in reply to Opportunity]

Playground practice is what the doc orders

[Rose23456 in reply to Imaaan]

Thank you for the advice!