Advice needed!

[Maiseymoo17]

Do I let the father of my child have access to his child when he sexually assaulted me when she was 7 months old? She's now nearly 1 and he has had access on and off due to my inability to move past what he's done. I need advice I'm finding him seeing her incredibly difficult mentally.

[Roxylox]

I would say no

[Maiseymoo17 in reply to Roxylox]

I know he has rights to see her and i don't want my daughter blaming me in the future for not being allowed to see her dad nor do I want judging me for it either.

[lavender212]

Hello! I am so sorry you had to experience that. I would not let him right now. For the safety of you and your daughter. One day in the future if you feel comfortable letting him then yes. But since you have uneasy feelings about it and questioning if you should let your daughter see him then no.

[Roxylox]

Like lavender212, l too would worry about your daughter's safety

[Blueruth]

No. Do the courts know? Let them do the difficult part. If they force it she should not be alone. You can also bring someone.

[Sabbath1]

He sexually assaulted you? Then hell no. If anything he's should be in a jail cell. Pretty sure your daughter will understand why her father wasn't in her life when she's older and can know what he did.

[kenster1]

I would say no but if you did it would have to be supervised at all times.

[Maxyz3]

Kick his ass to the curb..u don't need him!

[Midori]

As you are in UK, I would suggest you contact Social Services and ask their advice.

I have the feeling that they would advise against it, but am unsure of current regulations.

Social Workers aren't monsters, they try hard to do their best for their clients. I used them when my children were small and I had to leave an abusive relationship.

If they do suggest contact, then stipulate that it be supervised contact only.

It may have to go to court to be legal, but that gives you both more protection.

Cheers, Midori