Feeling lost

[Nichole07]

m not sure what my purpose is on this earth. I am trying so hard to overcome my social anxiety but it is . so. hard. Anyone have any tips or tricks?

[Blueruth]

Purpose is a hard one. For some lucky ones it comes early and naturally. For most of us you need to seek it out. Most of the time trying different things and keeping an open mind is how you find it. Sometimes it is right in front of you but you don't recognize it.I am here for the depression support however we all deal with some sort of social anxiety. I personally stay away from large events, especially work parties. When speed dating was a thing I was absolutely miserable at them and then I would go home completely humiliated. I am too serious sometimes so that seems to hose me up in some situations.

There are some things you can do like preparing some topics related to whatever the interaction is. In a one on one mentally prepare some questions to ask about them that are open ended. That is a great tip. Not only are you making them feel like you are showing an interest in them you are taking the focus off of you. You might also find something in common which will lead to a discussion and you will forget about your anxiety.

[ChanadlerBong]

I understand where you're coming from Nicole. My social anxiety is pretty bad too. I always feel like I'm going to say something stupid and embarrass myself irreparably. Just think, though, perhaps the person on the receiving end is just as nervous as you are. Humanize them a little bit. Think about the fact that they have flaws too and aren't any better than you. On purpose, I'm also at a loss. But I bet some people out there who really "know their place" in this world are actually scared too and trying to convince themselves they have it all together when they don't.

[Jay2O]

My tip Nichole is that you just be you whomever that is right now. If it feels more comfortable to be quiet this is okay. Let the chatty ones do the talking. If you don`t like crowds then don`t feel the need to go to those noisy places. Maybe something quieter is for you. I sometimes think that social anxiety can come about from previous bullying when younger. In the following years there feels the need to be different but I believe there is a place for everyone. You are PERFECT as you are right now. If you feel a little lonely then perhaps join one or two classes maybe say an art class where there`s no pressure for talking. You are simply there to learn and have fun with others. Not sure if you work but a job will bring you closer to others and possible friendships. Again just be yourself. True friends will be accepting. Realise also that you Nicole are UNIQUE . You are a gift to this world and you have much to give. x