Needing Radical Advice

[Lefty_Epee]

My anxiety and fear is causing severe irritability. I've fought with my girlfriend for the third day in a row now. We're both at fault but my anger is escalating the situation every time. How can I snap myself out of it without self-harming? I need help. Therapy isn't going to help. Been there, tried that. They just try to give me medication which does nothing but make me more irritable. This isn't because of built up anxiety and fear. I just snap. I'm getting closer to having a separate personality take over again because of it. I need something that I can use in the moment, that will snap me out of my anger, and show me what I'm close to losing. I am begging you guys, anything that you can possibly think of, please tell me.

[Resilience98]

Hey! I’m going through something similar right now. Something that has helped is too see the big picture, don’t let small fights or arguments get to your head because when we lose it, not only do we say things we don’t mean but we’re risking losing that person as well. Take a deep breath before continuing the argument and try to be objective. Is whatever you’re about to see going to be helpful in the conversation or is it just going to make it worse? Try to be conscious of your words and I promise taking a moment before arguing will change the whole environment. Idk if I’m explaining myself properly but I hope this helps! You got this✨🙏🏽

[Lefty_Epee in reply to Resilience98]

I completely understand what you're saying and thank you so much for your advice. Believe me, I've tried that. I really really have. I have multiple personalities and the one that manifests when I'm angry takes control and I'm powerless to reason. It sounds like an excuse and technically it is, but I don't know what to do. The only thing that worked in the past was self-harm during the moment to snap me out of it, but my girlfriend would be even more hurt by that. Please don't take this as criticism whatsoever. I really, really, really appreciate your help. I cannot thank you enough. I just am so lost.

[Resilience98 in reply to Lefty_Epee]

I’m sorry to hear that, wish I could help. The only thing I can think about is some type of holistic therapy so that you don’t have to get into meds but more of a body-connection therapy. I send you lots of good energy and strength to get through this🙏🏽

[Hb2003]

I’m so sorry about that 😞. I sometimes get extremely agitated sometimes i try to cool myself down when it’s really bad like today. Kindness and support to you ☮️🙏