Less stress

[Aleozodiac]

Since blocking my mom the other day my stress has went down a lot! I've finally realized you can't help a narcissist who doesn't want to change or doesn't think they do no wrong! Time for me to continue growing!

[Aleozodiac]

There is 0 compromising with her we have tried family therapy & each time they decide to drop us bc no acceptance or change on her end last counselor she asked my mom to hug me and she couldn't even do that! She is a narcissist & I have to distance myself or I'll never be healthy for my daughter

[Hidden in reply to Aleozodiac]

Hi Aleozodiac, I have a daughter thats going through a very heavy depression/anxiety. I try to hug her and give her all the attention in the world but she still complains that I don't do enough for her. Her bf broke up with her about 3 years ago and she still hurts because of his wrong doings. She asks me to help her get out of the sadness she is in and I don't know how to help her.. Is there something I'm need to do to help her out of this horrible evil situation she is in? I'm asking you because it seems that you need the hugs of your mom to help you also. I try hugging her, listening to her and spend time with her but once the night comes along she gets the anxiety triggers and then she gets angry at me because I can't get her out of this sadness. She will be getting a trauma therapist coming next week, I hope this might ease her mind. I'm just tired not knowing how to get her out of this place she is in. Thank you!

[Aleozodiac in reply to Hidden]

This is a good question also! With me I just want those things from my mom but don't get them at all! Your daughter sounds like her ptsd won't let her accept any comfort so needs help by someone who specializes in ptsd triggers. I also went through an abusive marriage so I have ptsd from that and childhood rape when I'm very triggered I just want to be alone until the anger calms down I admit when triggered I can become selfish and stubborn

[Hidden in reply to Aleozodiac]

I'm sorry you went through that I know its hard and I know I should be more calm with her and try to understand her more. Sometimes it just get very hard and not knowing how to get her out of this makes it worse. I do everything possible to understand her about how hurt she is and not having a family at the age of 32. I believe she is still young but I also understand her that all her friends are either married with a family except her. She is a very smart girl that has a lot going for her but this deep depression/anxiety just doesn't allow her to move forward. I pray to God that someday a young man that can change her life come and sweep her off her feet but hasn't happen yet... All her friends have moved out of town and she really only has me as her sounding board. Living in a rural area isn't easy to meet someone. A... I wish you all the best in this world and wish you lived close because I would be here for you... Know that I could be your sounding board also. Anytime and any day...

[Aleozodiac in reply to Hidden]

You sound very loving and supportive and if I lived closer I'd be there for both you and your daughter! I never thought I'd love again until I found my husband! I hope you and your daughter can find healthy grounds and she will be ok! Glad she starts therapy soon

[Hidden in reply to Aleozodiac]

Thank you! Hope all the best in this world for you.... I know she will be ok but I wish it was soon. Yes! Pray this therapist helps her...

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Thank you soooo much!

[Aleozodiac in reply to Hidden]

You're So welcome

[Aleozodiac]

That day my heart broke so badly! Thank you for your help

[Aleozodiac]

Well thank you for reaching out

[Midori]

Well done!

Onwards and upwards now!

[Midori]

Good for you, Keep going, keep growing strong!