I'm new here, and trying to overcome being very sensitive. I was always sensitive, but I only recently realized the problems it has created for me. I've also used drugs and alcohol since I was very young, I have 3 weeks completely clean now, I'm trying to become a better person and being less sensitive is key, it has always driven my behavior and caused me to act in ways that have caused serious regret, I never forgave my father for punching me when I was 3, and on and on ad nauseum.
So at this time my wife is in a lot of pain, and suffering a lot of hurt due to rejection by her son. This causes her to be mean to me, ignoring me, being condescending etc. In the past I would have walked out, but I realize that she is can't help it. She is not self aware, anymore than I used to be. I'm getting better, but of course I stumble at times, finding myself being drawn into a fight, and yelling at her. But at least I don't walk out, or break things.
I'm hoping that someone else has been through this and can give me advice. I am still very much hurt by how she treats me, and I want to learn not to let these things hurt me in the first place, instead of just controlling my behavior.
I know it can be done, I understand that special forces people are very good at this, as are a lot of police. Any help will be greatly appreciated. I'm 65 now, and this is my last chance to really improve my life, the lives of those I love, and to makeup for my past behavior....I didn't realize it at the time, but I was a real creep.