Betrayal

[justrynabegood]

Hi guys never really posted anything on here before but I’m feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and beyond disrespected recently I caught my “girlfriend” with another guy sleeping her in her bed. Then I was at fault for barging in and was told “it’s not what you think”. She continued to say sorry after she kicked me out for being the asshole. Fast forward a little bit she got drunk and instead of coming to me for help or at least get home safely she decided that she wanted him and went him with him. When I confronted her the next day noting happened I was just drunk not thinking straight. Fast forward to today and this week, she’s been blowing me off all week saying that she’s tired, busy, or in a foul mood. She then goes out with this guy AGAIN and refuses to tell me where she’s at. Am I a fool for staying? Am I in the wrong? Please tell me.

[Weelon]

Hi you’re not in the wrong. She got caught & doesn’t know how to deal with the situation. If she’s your girlfriend, you don’t sleep/lie in bed with another man. It’s wrong whether she got drunk etc, personally I wouldn’t put up with that. What if the tables were turned? There was no thought for you. I believe she’s avoiding a confrontation. Depends how much you’re fond of her & in need of closure/explanation then confront her but you may not like it. At least you’ll be the better person.

[justrynabegood in reply to Weelon]

I love this woman we’ve been through a lot and I don’t mean just bad times like this one but enough where we know each other and how one is gonna take things but this just blew my mind and don’t know what to do I’m stuck, unsure and hurt all at the same time.

[b1b1b1]

I think Weelin is absolutely correct.

[LordKnowsImTrying]

She sounds like a terrible person.

[justrynabegood in reply to LordKnowsImTrying]

She isn’t a horrible person but lately I don’t know what’s gotten in to her. This isn’t her.

[AnxiousCanadianChic]

Not a good sign.. I don’t know any women who are in a relationship who just “sleeps” in a bed with another guy… Her then getting mad at you for barging in is deflecting and really makes her look guilty. It seems something is definitely going on with this guy. Just wondering, why did you put girlfriend in quotations?

[justrynabegood in reply to AnxiousCanadianChic]

In all those scenarios she blamed me for her actions. She said that all my doings or actions led to her doing what she did. It doesn’t matter how strong a person may be when a series of events happen like this you shut down and fall. I’m devastated and lost. The reason girlfriend was in quotations was because we aren’t talking it’s been 2 maybe three days and I don’t even know what the outcome will be.

[LordKnowsImTrying in reply to justrynabegood]

Save yourself the heartache. She doesn’t take accountability for her actions. Unless you poured liquor down her throat, clubbed her over the head and put her in the bed with that man…SHE is responsible, not YOU.

[Lefty_Epee]

I think you should tell her you need space. You need to put yourself and your health first. It doesn't matter how much you love her. She needs to respect the relationship that you two have. If she can't do that, you should end it. However, really think about this. Don't be impulsive, don't be rude, don't let your emotions control you. Don't give her anything to try and use against you. You have to be calm, and in control the whole time. Best of luck, stay strong.

[mydog56]

your not wrong and your not a fool for staying,she is a fool and wrong about you, cause that night she was drunk ]

i think i would just give her water and just write her feelings in a notebook, of course she does do things to make you feel stressed , i think you both should write down what happened , write your feelings, moods, thoughts down and see what happened there and then talk to her the next day and see how that goes, if it does not , go well, just pm me.....