Considering Break Up

[jwhitleyjr]

I am considering leaving my relationship because I feel that I am not a good representative for my girlfriend. She is working on her doctorate and even tho I have a Masters degree. I survive by working at a CVS. I am working on getting a career with my degree but In am not driven like her. So I do not want to ruin her reputation. I feel like she needs more and I made a mistake committing to her when my life is not together

[Roxylox]

You only mention study and career related stuff. What about other things , other aspects ofyour relationship. To me your reasons to want to leave just seem incomplete.

[jwhitleyjr in reply to Roxylox]

I see what you mean and you are right. I am sounding really cold.

[Roxylox in reply to jwhitleyjr]

I'm really sorry l didn't men it that way at all! I kind of meant maybe you are selling yourself short in the relationship. Have you discussed how you feel with her?

I feel like I'm intruding into matters here sorry again if Iam.

[jwhitleyjr in reply to Roxylox]

No no you are not intruding. I appreciate what you are saying.

[Hidden]

I would not break up a relationship I enjoy until I talked to my partner about my feelings. She may feel very differently.

I'm not exactly sure what you mean by a "good representative" and "ruin her reputation" but you can definitely work on yourself while being the best partner you can be. She is likely to admire you and your hard work.

[jwhitleyjr in reply to Hidden]

You are right.

[DodgeDhanda]

Firstly thank you for ur honesty as for me it shows a person who has good morals.

Now for me you're asking the wrong people & the only one U need to talk to in a calm respectful manner is ur other half.

She may well have had the same thoughts as you or she is totally nuts about you & would fall apart if u called it off no matter how noble ur intent is.

Now a suggestion if I may sir.

Just talk to her with the same honesty as you've given us. She will hopefully slap you in the back of the head & say don't be silly. And that's when you both lay out the love you have for each other & how ur a partnership. It could be you just need some reassurance & need to get rid of the doubts u have in ur heart & filled ur heart with the love you have for her & to seal the deal.... Cook for her .... nothing more better in the universe than S'mores.

In short TALK TO UR LADY bro.

[jwhitleyjr in reply to DodgeDhanda]

Wow you are a source of inspiration Thank you

[DodgeDhanda in reply to jwhitleyjr]

I hope I have inspired you to make S'mores but u need to talk as I've found over the years no relationship of any kind can ever work if there is a breakdown in communication.

GOOD LUCK Bro.