Break up

[Amz_01]

I’ve been dealing a lot with anxiety and depression recently and I’ve just broken up with my partner last night and I think I leaned on them quite a lot with my mental health and spoke to them the most about it and now I feel so vulnerable and as if I have no one to talk to and I can already feel myself declining mentally and I’m so afraid because I’m so sad because of what has happened and piling that on top of my anxiety and depression already I’m so scared I won’t be able to cope. I’m not sure what to do

[Hidden]

Hi Amz,

I'm having a rocky couple days myself.

Maybe we could support one another?

I slept in 2 1/2 hours and just now drinking coffee. I looked out to find it had snowed overnight.

[Amz_01 in reply to Hidden]

Yeah that would be great ! I’m still in bed at 3pm and unfortunately it hasn’t snowed here aha. How are you keeping

[Hidden in reply to Amz_01]

I've been up and down ;). I've had long term depression for awhile and I am still learning things that work for me.

A fairly recent understanding has been to watch (and correct if needed) overly harsh interpretations of my own actions. This is something I've done since childhood, so its automatic at this point.

But hammering myself for say, taking a nap or forgetting a class, usually makes me feel more depressed. I've been working on more forgiving and understanding responses from myself.

It all has taken time.

[Amz_01 in reply to Hidden]

That is a great way of improving how you view yourself ! I really do hope with time you see yourself in a more positive manner and not being so harsh on yourself it’s always baffled me how as humans we continually pick out faults within ourselves but usually wouldn’t do the same to others like I would say something about myself but never in a million years would I say that about anyone else. I’m trying to move towards treating myself how I treat other people but self love is a long journey.

[Hidden in reply to Amz_01]

Yes, I think this is common on this board. Overall, a kind group of people who just treat themselves badly.

It needs to stop. But it feels like Im trying to change course for a very large ship-- Im turning the wheel, but it requires great effort and the direction changes so slowly!

[Amz_01 in reply to Hidden]

Totally! But we have to take every small progress as a big achievement

[Hidden in reply to Amz_01]

You're right. Thank you for the reminder.

[shewolf_]

I’m going through a break up too . It’s hard and I leaned on that person for emotional support while dealing with my depression and stress. But I had to eventually realize that I have to be able to stand on my own two feet. I had to understand that my emotional support starts with me . I have to be able to wipe my own tears , hug myself and cheer myself up first . It’s great to have someone you love be there for you and make you feel okay again . I miss that too . But if I place a person in this void that I have I am doing more damage because then my happiness and stability lies in their hands. But i really learned that he wasn’t my only support system . I had friends i had siblings i had mother figures and trust worthy adults that have always been in my corner . They are the ones I can lean on as well . I thought my ex was the only person who knew me good enough but that’s not true . I hope you feel better . Write down your thoughts and feelings when you don’t want to talk . Then gradually get to a place where u can talk to someone that you trust .

- sending love and good vibes

[Hidden in reply to shewolf_]

Great advice! Rely on ourselves first. Amen to that.

[Amz_01 in reply to shewolf_]

Wow thank you so much this really helped a lot. I know I need to be able to help myself but I’ve just never been able to so it’s hard. And it’s just easier to talk to someone you’re so close to. But thank you for sharing your experience and advice I’m glad you’re doing better x

[GOPAL5]

Dear Do not disappoint.I will help you.

[pink318]

Hello,

Breakups are hard. I struggled when I broke up with my past boyfriend. It’s difficult to move forward. I’m thankful that I had a friend who stayed with me when I was going through that journey. That person listened to me and even cried with me. It was a big help. If you have someone you can share your feelings with, it would be great. Or you can always post here in the forum. We are here to encourage one another. I hope you will find comfort here. You can also write down your feelings in your journal.

Thank you for sharing. Stay safe. God bless.