Depression Help

[treyjeff]

Hi everyone,

Just got back from college after graduating and I’ve been depressed. I’m just really pessimistic about the future in general and am questioning my place in this world and my purpose. My Uncle & Grandmother are also somewhat close to passing away and that’s also really hurting. On top of that, I’m sick with a chest infection which is also making my asthma act up which in turn is causing my anxiety to go nuts.

Any words of motivation or wisdom would be greatly appreciated. I’m struggling.

Thanks,

Trey

[BrainIsFull]

Hi. I want to say that I remember feeling much the same way after graduating from college. (A long time ago😳🙂). It is a major step and those steps can be unsettling! So I would say that it's somewhat "normal".

Just a reminder to keep track of any medications you are taking, get the dosage checked. Are you seeing a therapist?

[treyjeff in reply to BrainIsFull]

I stopped seeing a therapist once COVID hit. I made an appointment for Friday. I’m just so sad because I feel like I’ll never get out of this hole.

[BrainIsFull in reply to treyjeff]

Your brain is telling you that there is no hope. One of my grounding techniques that I have written down says: " Relabel what's happening: 'my thinking is negative but that doesn't mean that is reality' or 'I am stuck in a negative thought pattern' or 'this is anxiety/depression' ".

Sometimes that helps me- to step outside of myself and get a different perspective.

Otherwise, try to give yourself credit for reaching out here and looking for a therapist and any other steps you are taking to move through this.

I know it's so hard but you can do it. You are doing it!💚

[Jeff1943]

No doubt you had to study hard to graduate from college and that and the pressure of exams can cause you to be depleted of nervous energy which can express itself as depression and anxiety.

You must look after yourself, get plenty of sleep and rest. And see a doctor about that chest infection.

As your nervous system recovers from the trauma of graduating your depression and anxiety will lift and you will see things in perspective.

See your uncle and grandmother as often as you can, take them a tub of chocolate ice cream and ask them about the olden days, they'll love that.

Armed with your graduation the world is now your oyster, don't just go for jobs offering the most money, go for jobs that you'd enjoy doing which means something related to your interests. And if it serves other people all the better.

Firms are beginning to hire again, make finding a job your current job with a 7 hour day. Once you occupy yourself with career hunting you'll be less obsessed with your "problems". But it all starts with taking it easy for a short while to recharge your batteries.

[BrainIsFull in reply to Jeff1943]

I really like your reply. I feel calmer just reading this. 🙂💚

[HisDaughter]

Dear Trey,

You are dealing with a lot and I am sorry! And congratulations on your graduation! That was a lot of hard work and you did it! I hope that a doctor can help you a lot with your chest infection and asthma. And if your negative feelings and anxiety still continue for another week, I would advise that you consult a licensed mental health professional for help, if you aren't already. Your uncle and grandmother must have been very nice to you and you must be very close to them. Those are big blessings! I am very sorry that they are close to passing away! It's not easy being in your place and I hope that you always seek all the help that you need because things can get better with treatment. Your uncle and your grandmother are irreplaceable, but I know that God can give you comfort and peace and He has a purpose for you. Being depressed is not easy. It ruins many things. May God help you so much and guide you and bless you! Take care of yourself! Keep in mind that you matter a lot to God and He is always desiring to be a part of your life.

[treyjeff in reply to HisDaughter]

Thank you. Your kind words are appreciated. I feel much better today, but I'm still going to therapy Friday.

[HisDaughter]

P.S.: Many therapists have been seeing patients through online sessions. If you're not able to get treatment right away from the therapist with whom you have an appointment on Friday, I hope that you can find another therapist. Trey, you WILL feel better. For some people, it can take a long time for the depression to go away. I don't know when you'll feel better but it is important to not give up. Wishing you the best!

[crowningglory19]

HI Trey, congratulations on graduating! You should be proud of yourself, I'm proud of you too! =) You will definitely have a great future, I feel it to be sure. Just keep on keeping on, make plans since that will be your future, keep looking at the next step, but not the big picture if it gets too overwhelming. Definitely asthma can lessen your oxygen so it will bring on anxiety, get that resolved and better and also take a good multi vitamin with extra magnesium to calm you and extra b vitamins to give you focus and energy. take walks to strengthen your breathing, slow walks, not too much. Spend as much time as you can with your loved ones so you don't have regrets, and tell them how much you love them. Do something in honor of them, whether its a memoir, journal or charity/volunteering. Helping others will help you too. Ask for wisdom from your loved ones who are older and wiser, you will find much from them. =) <3