detachment

[leaningonjesus]

Has anyone, after years and decades of detachment and depersonalization from so many negative/ awful situations, family life, people, marriages, and relationships, and many other life events, realized that now you are basically "numb" to everyone and everything in life? As if all empathy, compassion and desire for anyone and anything is totally absent? If so, how have you changed that, since those things(empathy, etc) are something that exists deep within someone that make us love and want to help others?

[Rafiki11]

Yes. My adulthood has been great but my childhood was awful. Some things that have helped

Antidepressant

Therapy

Neurofeedback

Massage therapy

Physical therapy and chiropractor (for anxiety pain in shoulders)

Reading books about trauma recovery and shame resilience

Snuggles with my husband, kids, and dog

[BrainIsFull]

I would say that in order to turn that around, the focus first need to be on self compassion and learning to like/love oneself.

I know that I have tried so many "self improvement " ideas throughout the years and I (fairly recently) realized that I was trying to hate and shame myself into changing.

I think that often we just care for others and at some point realize that we have badically emptied ourselves. There's nothing left for anyone or anything. Then we most likely need a radical "recharge".

[leaningonjesus in reply to BrainIsFull]

good pointsi dont think i ever learned how to like or love myself

with my life having been so full of mistakes and bad choices, i never gave myself the chance to learn to even like myself

i think thats something i could address with my therapist

thankyou😊

[fauxartist]

I think by having a pet that you have to be responsible for at a young age helps you to develop an understanding for compassion and unconditional love. But some people are just wired to not have compassion.

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I've learned to love myself and look at what I have. Make peace with myself and drop anything or person no longer " fits ".Easily said. Hard to put into practice when for what ever reason or thing that's held us back is waiting for us to slip up

[catch_the_music]

Ya. I get there at times. Sometimes I just don't care about others. When I get in that mindset - I try to help out kids in some way - even small ways. I realize we are all in this together and we need to help out the kids around us. Something as simple as shooting baskets with kids - is a huge bonus to them. It is harder to help adults. I will find myself praying for God's help to love others - especially other adults who have not been kind. I have found with people - that if I love them long enough eventually we will like each other. The psalms is a great place for inspiration on that. I rely on that scripture "Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up". Keep your eyes focused on doing good things. God Bless!

[Dolphin14]

Pets are very consoling.

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