I would have thought that at least at this group standing up against a bully would be if not encouraged at least accepted. I have been told that I should not watch these videos. I did not seek this out. It popped up on a group called Hilarious Jokes. The group has standards and this post definitely violated those standards. I can forgive that facebook lady for letting the cat drink wine. I, myself, didn't know that wine is bad for cats until I saw the cat stumbling around hardly able to stand. What I cannot forgive is that she thought this was funny enough to share with the world. I found her sense of humor cruel & offensive. I spoke up and almost instantly regretted it. I came here to tell my story & hope someone would help with what happened. Then cat lady came at me with guns blasting. She said vile & rude things to me & to the lady who gave me a thumbs up. What did that one do? I reported the post & the woman who posted them. They are both gone. If facebook had thought I was wrong I would be the one out in the cold. But I am not.
Most of you have been very supportive & I thank you. But a small portion of you seem to think you know more. You have chosen to blame the victim. You blame the cat. You blame me for being upset. You blame Facebook as being some sort of evil entity. You readily admit you don't use facebook, don't like it. Yet you stand in judgement of the site & those who use it.
I came here because I thought this place was full of people who had been bullied & pushed around because of their emotional issues. When I was 4 yrs old my dad raped me and then beat me for seducing him. This continued until I hit puberty. Every time I got upset it was because I deserved it or I put myself in that situation. When schoolyard bullies beat me bloody no one went after them. Instead I got punished for going to the playground alone. I was 8. They were 12. Everyone here can relate to this. No one understands us. We come here for understanding & acceptance. Next time you think someone has opened the door to trouble tell them in a way that does not make it look like the bullies are right & I'm wrong.
I'm sorry admin. I had to say this because this attitude has continued even after I said I wanted to put this in the past. You ban me if you want but I've had my say.
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Standing in solidarity with you. There are no words for me to convey how truly sorry I am that you were raped and experienced sexual abuse for so many years. I admire your courage to speak up against bullying and your strength to carry on in life.
I have seen where you got these replies and put a reply up supporting you. Most people were supportive so don't let any less than supportive replies put you off. We have all had this sort of thing here if you have been here long enough, but by the very nature of this site you get some members who are angry at the world and people and sometimes they will take it out on others.
You always get detractors unfortunately anywhere you go and online is no different. At least on here the admins do act to keep the site as friendly as possible. There are rules in here and they are adhered to. You said the members have now gone so hopefully there will be no more of this.
Oh you do know of course that your post and all the replies are a lot more private if you lock your posts to this community? Otherwise it can go viral and appear anywhere on the net. If posts are locked it might cut down troublemakers who can come across the post by accident then decide to come in and troll or scam. It's up to you of course though. x
Oh dear, of course you were right to stand up for what was right! Animal cruelty and then flaunting it, horrible. I am sorry to hear about your really traumatic childhood.
I really admire the great wit in your posts. There is nothing like a sense of humour to keep us going.
I’m so sorry about that lots of kindness and support ❤️🙏
I'm so sorry for all you've been through. That was so awful and WRONG.
Also, you're only saying the truth. That's what this place is for. Don't worry, that's not something to get banned for. Keep sharing your thoughts and feelings.
Pinkie56, you are fierce, and a true survivor. It appears your post turned ugly through no fault of yours. One thing I’ve found here in HealthUnlocked is that, in a lot of ways, it is a microcosm of out there. We’ve got the players and the haters, (and the master debaters) and the good gentlepeople of the world who are just trying to make their way. In other ways, this is a unique playground of inner worlds. For some of us, conflict itself has been so utterly destructive that we can’t really deal with it yet without major flashbacks and the old fight, flight, freeze, fawn responses kicking in. For some of us, we lack boundaries and don’t realize when we need a break or are burned out. So you get burned out, conflict-averse people in various states of flashbacks helping one another through conflict. Strangely, this is remarkably effective in many cases.
Unfortunately, when it fails, it can be catastrophic.
I’m sorry that you were subjected to toxic behaviors here.
Thank you for being smarter & kinder than I am. Luckily I get over things quickly. This is my philosophy -- I may cry for 15 mins but they, they are going to be them forever. 🌷
From your description, it sounds like you stood up for what was right & just, & then the tone & focus of conversation was turned around to make it a personal attack on you.
That's a very immature way to discuss and debate, totally dodging the real issue, and I'm sorry you were made the subject of that kind of attitude.
Remember that this horrible scenario is not part of what defines you.
Those of us with deep empathy & a strong conscience do get battle scars when we fight for the rights of others, we take it personally but must try not to be pulled under.
I drift on & off this forum so I don't know many so well, but I can see that you have a good network on here. The loud, aggressive voices of the minority are so much less important than the quiet, encouraging voices of the majority.
Hi this Is Shnookie. I’m here 4 U. I hate being bullied and targeted 4 being different. I stuttered when I was a little kid and was also shy. I was in the 4th grade when standing with my teachers and some other students. I said something, and my teacher
said that my mouth sounded like it was full of marbles !! I was mortified. I didn’t stand up 4 myself because I was scared 😱. However when I went home I told my mom. She was not pleased. She went to school the next day and complained to the teacher about his behavior towards me. Needless to say, this teacher never made fun of me again. Today, I have a voice. But I was so lucky that my mom stood up for me. U can contact me privately if U choose.
Good for you for standing up for yourself and the poor cat and speaking your truth. And even better for you for not tolerating the disrespectful responses and showing true courage.
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