Just sad

[Soundofmusic26]

One of the things I am always depressed about is myself. I feel so inadequate and bad at life. I’m on new medicine and it really is working well. I’m in the best place I have been in a really long time. However, I still struggle. I want to do so much more with my life. I want to be “great” at something. I want to make a difference and I don’t feel that I do and it saddens me. My lack of accomplishments devastates me and then I’m upset that I’m devastated by it? 🤦🏻‍♀️ It’s hard.

[Green-heart]

I can relate to this. Getting depressed because I can’t live up to my expectations. As hard as it is to get out on my own, I do know that nature is the best thing for me to help let go of that feeling.

[Kainan]

Hi. I have those same feelings from time to time. And I have to remind myself each time that those thoughts are not based in reality. What is that something that you would like to be great at? Perhaps make a difference within your life, your family's, your community? It's always better to be specific with questions like these

[Hest321]

I always find that I get caught up thinking too much about myself in any way, doing something for someone else always helps! I still have my own problems but I realized I can still make a difference to someone else in any small way; and it ALWAYS helps my own perspective on life and what is important. Hugs to you; we each have our purpose ❤️🥰

[finefrenzy127]

The hardest thing to do is recognize our weakness, you should be very proud of yourself for wanting more out of life. Quote I have heard my whole adult life: It is never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life that you are proud of, and if you find you're not, have the strength to start over. Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve!

[HisDaughter]

I am sorry about how you feel! I completely understand you because I have felt the very same way too. In my case, I have suffered from depression for a long time and I have not had accomplishments. Depression is very hard. I know that some other people have had other health problems too and it is not easy for them either. Please do what you can to help yourself! Medications are a blessing. I know they can help a lot. Another thing that is very important is therapy. If you do not have a counselor or a therapist please try to find one. Someone said: “To the world you may be one person, but to one person you are the world.” Some of us may not be very important in society and we may see that we don't have many accomplishments. But there are people to whom we are irreplaceable. You matter a lot! God, who created you, values your life a lot and your existence is important to Him. Talk to Him and ask Him to help you with everything! We all need His help.

[JkBauer]

Good Morning,I am so glad that your medicine is working and that you are in the best place right, that is wonderful! - Don't worry about tomorrow, we ALL want to do greater things than we are doing today. One thing I have learned - Pick only one thing that you really truly want to do in life and then work towards doing it. IE; in my single years, I LOVED bicycling. I went everywhere on my bike. People, my family, doctors... told me that I would never be able to live by myself or do anything by myself. I had such a desire to go out and prove everyone wrong. My bicycle was my outlet off blowing off steam, then eventually I really started loving biking and I decided I wanted to go on a bike trip. I started working on developing my strength and researching different places I wanted to go to and saving money up to go on a trip. I had worked my way up to biking 200- 300 miles a week on my bike. I finally felt that I was ready, I had found the right bike trip I wanted to go on. It was a three-week trip, 1,000 miles. - It was the one thing in my life that I was glad that I had chosen to commit to doing even though it was a rough road training for, I enjoyed even the training. I made new friends, saw places that I probably would have never gotten to see otherwise. After I had taken that trip, I felt a little more confident in myself. I had another dream that I wanted to accomplish. I had always wanted to get married and have a family. Again, my family and doctors said, no you will never be able to be a wife or mother. If you get pregnant, you should abort them. I was so hurt by that, I started crying and ran out the door and did not return back home until a couple of hours later. Two years after my bike trip, I met the man of my dreams; I married him over 31 years ago. I bore three children who were and still are strong and healthy. Today our oldest is 30, our second 28 and our third is 25 years old. And I have a granddaughter who is going to be two this summer. - Never give up! Take one step at a time, just because something does not work out, there will always be another window open or another avenue that you can try. Life is always full of bumps, potholes, and storms. - Take your time, get a good support group of people who believe in you and your dream, and go for it. The first step is always the hardest. - I believe that you can do it and take that first step!

[Melancholy12 in reply to JkBauer]

You are an inspiration to all!

[Hidden]

I know how you feel, as I myself feel much the same. But the important thing to note here is that life isn't necessarily about being the best at any one thing. it's not about having the most accomplishments. It's about doing what gives you meaning and fulfillment. There are people who have a whole list of accomplishments and awards who feel empty because they were don't doing what was truly meaningful to them. Likewise, there are others who have not accomplished much, and most likely never will, but they are happy and fulfilled nonetheless because the life they lived gave them meaning. Sometimes we tear ourselves apart and diminish what we have because we compare ourselves to what others have. Sometime we feel like we haven't done enough because we put to much burden on ourselves or we just don't accept all that we have done. I fit into both of those categories. Sometimes society leads us to believe we haven't done enough. There are a whole host of reasons why one feels this way but the key point here is to remember that the only way you will ever be happy and fulfilled is if you have a meaningful life with meaningful connections. Sure achievements will make you feel good as you complete them but that will eventually wear off. If set a goal to run 2% faster than I did yesterday and I achieve this goal I will we happy for a little while. But will that make my life complete? Most likely not. So take things at your pace, and remember it's okay to live your life by what is meaningful to you. It's not a race to see who get's what the fastest it's about the journey you traveled to get to the end.