Hey guys.
As some of you know, I've gone through a pretty bad emotionally traumatizing breakup late last year. I've started medication. Gone to a few therapy sessions. Got closure with a previous ex (from 2018/19). Things are stable with my current ex. We still text pretty regularly. He knows a lot of what I've been going through. I've managed to rekindle a friendship I lost with a boy I was deeply attached to. We were friends for 10+ years, he came out, and we drifted apart. Things between us aren't the same, but we've hung out a couple times.
I'm a woman - I lack woman/female friends. I struggle forming connections with them for some reason. I have a sister, but she has her life, and she's not really emotionally available enough to bond on a deeper level with me. It's always things she wants to do, she never wants to do anything I do.
I'm also on Bumble and Tinder. So, some days I talk to 30+ guys. Other days it drops down to maybe 5. I've hung out with a few. I don't feel anything romantic. Most of them that I do go on a one-off date with, there's not enough in common to even pursue a second outing.
I went out to a bar with my sister and her friend last night. We were surrounded by tons of people. I still felt loneliness. I texted my ex instead and sat outside by the fire.
I'm 23 years old, I've never truly had a solid, consistent group of friends or a relationship that lasted over 5/6 months. I legitimately require a deeper bond to pursue a friendship/relationship with anyone. Heck, if there's not even enough on the base level conversation, there's no point. I'm an extremely perceptive person, so I can usually tell the first day or two of me talking to someone if it will work out long term.
This has resulted in a crippling, debilitating loneliness. I was trying to figure out what was causing me to feel this way. Obviously, other factors tie in such as the breakup, anxiety, depression, emotional wiring, etc... but they all kinda just snowball and become intertwined and muddied.
So, some symptoms I've been having due to this is an overall drained feeling emotionally, mentally and physically. It actually has gotten to where I could/can not properly function as a human being. I ran a red light last week, didn't even realize it until 30 seconds later. I almost got t-boned because I pulled out at a light. I've had migraines consistently for the last month. I've taken 2 weeks off of work, and I go back next Sunday. I took 2 weeks in November. 2 weeks in January. I just can't do anything, anymore, it seems.
I sleep ALL the time. I go to bed around 8:30/9pm. wake up around 8am-ish. I take a nap around 2pm. Rinse and repeat. I'm still tired. I was out until 3 am with a friend last week, I was still tired. I was out Friday and Saturday night at the bar, I'm still tired. Nothing changes how I feel. I wake up and reality sets in, and I am lonely.
Even when I take naps, and I wake up and reality sets in, I end up feeling even more like a POS than I did prior to dozing off.
I know people are gonna say things like, "You have to make YOU happy" etc., and yeah, looking from outside in, I've changed so much over the last 6 months. It's great... but I've had to live life alone, and do everything alone. It is tiring. I am tired of it. I want someone to rely on, someone to open up to and receive comfort from.
I went out to the store earlier, and while I was driving, I just couldn't stop thinking about these feelings, and if they'd ever truly go away. I don't think I can take it anymore.