I'm in my late 40's and I have yet to feel worthy. I don't feel I'm worth it. Not enough to get my nails done, buy something I really like thats not on sale, not worthy enough for expensive shampoo or name brand anything. Yet I have no problem getting my children all they need and want and more. I like myself, who I am. .....so why can't I love myself and feel worthy. My get keeps telling me its the abuse I had as a child. But as a grone adult who has " everything in life needed to be happy" .....why do I feel like dirty, unwanted garbage? Unworthy of anything good.
Can ANYONE else relate at all?🙁
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You are worthy. I used to have this struggle so I would splurge on myself every now and then. But slowly I realised material things don't symbolise my worth and value. Media, society and modern lifestyle sell us this idea that worth comes from material abundance alone. It is very wrong.
You are worthy of love, forgiveness, compassion, respect, gentleness, kind understanding, generosity. Be generous to yourself in terms of positive self talk, time spent in self care (meditation, prayers, silence, exercise) and most importantly forgiveness. Forgive yourself so you can forgive others. All that you have given, the Universe will return in multiple folds, be sure of that. Be open to receiving. So feel worthy, be grateful and much will be bestowed upon you.
When there is any negative self talk, immediately think "cancel, cancel" or think of the Divine or repeat a mantra. Keep GIVING yourself positive self talk. Drop that victim consciousness (being abused), instead think I am a warrior and know that you are part of mother nature. All the fascinating events in nature can happen to you too (eg. flowers blooming in spring after a harsh winter).
(These are some of the stuff I have learnt from spirituality. And tough life experiences dealing with persistent major depression. I hope it helps you too. We have to keep practising and reminding each other.)
I'm really glad you feel calmer and comforted. It adds to my sense of worth I'm having a good day so far so I come here to share and support others. When I get down, I am sure others will support me.
Another thing I read that worked on me whenever I get stuck at victim mentality or felt used/exploited/unloved/unappreciated or lost faith in true love was this: the sun keeps bringing sunlight to all of us without asking to be loved in return. Be that love.
Wow, I was blown away. I have been receiving true love everyday! From the sun!!! And oxygen from mother nature is true love. Been receiving that on average 12-20 breaths per min. Wow! My heart keeps pumping blood to keep me alive and I never thanked it. That's true love. Mother Nature has been showering me with true love. How am I not worthy? We are all worthy because we are one with nature.
I can definitely relate. I’m also blessed with a wonderful family and supportive friends, but it still feels like something‘s missing from my life, or something’s wrong with me. It’s been helpful for me to remind myself that any negative thoughts I have about myself are just thoughts, not gospel written in stone. You are worth so much more than you know!
You are a child of God so you are worthy. We came into this world worthy but some relative in our childhood told us over and over we were not. Maybe it was your parents but because they were adults we believed them. Next we carried it into our relationships which were or are dysfunctional. Once you have identified the problem you can get therapy to heal and know who you really are. Do you have a good therapist? This is a good support group as we want to be here for each other. We understand and am on the same journey just at different steps. Journaling each day and journaling your feelings help I practice affirmations that are attainable,not unrealistic. Hope this helps
Absolutely. 46 and can't look at myself in the mirror. Having no real friends adds to my feeling worthless. I'm not good enough for others so why bother to try. The thing is knowing how much this hurts I do not want anyone else to feel this. You take care of your kids, there is not much more worthy than that. Start by recognizing your worth in each smile they give, feel it everytime they wrap their arms around you, hear it when they say I love you. You are worth their love
I know how you feel. It is the feeling of not loving yourself that causes this. The statement you made "you have everything in life needed to be happy" is a key indicator that you are looking at things the wrong way. Life is about meaning. Chasing happiness is futile because that is fleeting. It's not sustainable. You are going to have days that are not happy and days that are. Some days may be painful, others may just be boring. The point is you can have all the thins society tells us will make us happy a good paying job, a big house, financial safety net, a loved one. we can have all this things and still be unhappy because of what those things do for us. If the job you have isn't meaningful to you, you won't be happy. If your relationships are not close you will not be happy. If you have a lot of wealth but don't feel connected with anyone that money means nothing. And most importantly if you don't love yourself enough to put yourself first then everything else will always come before you which will make you unhappy. Material things will also not bring you joy so it doesn't surprise me that spending on yourself doesn't make you happy. You not feeling worthy may be your reaction to you not feeling good about feeling nothing when you buy something. However, compare that to you buying for your kids. That does make you happy because it is giving a gift, but it is also sharing love. It is you taking the time to be kind to others in whatever capacity. That makes you feel good because it is meaningful. It is about the connection you share. You are enough, you have always been enough. You just have to be kind and compassionate with yourself and you must start seeking things that are meaningful to you. Then you will find that happiness will come as a byproduct of that.
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I'm having a good day so far so I come here to share and support others. When I get down, I am sure others will support me. 
When do you check into a hospital?
I'm really struggling right now
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