What do you do about loneliness?
I am on Disability, live alone, have no family-
And I just feel like the loneliness is going to kill me, it is so painful. I can't concentrate enough to watch movies or read. I am an extrovert and want to be around people. But, lack the motivation to go. And there are no volunteer opportunities open. I have cats, but they offer me no comfort. What do you do for loneliness?
Hi Grace, I'm so sorry that you are lonely... hopefully once covid is over you will be able to get out more. Are you able to get out for walks, etc.? In the meantime... come here! It appears as if there is usually someone around to talk to!
I am more of an introvert, I am thankful, I do not get lonely. I had some volunteer work at the local library, and classes too. All came to a stop with Covid. Like you I have no family here, I am almost 79, have no friends here as they have died or moved away. I keep busy on the internet, just like now reaching out to help people, I love this forum I was a basket case when I joined, I suffer from clinical depression and anxiety. I am well again, on the right med's and have a Wonderful therapist, after covid kept me from going to her office, she calls me twice a week to see how I am, she helps me with my problems, is loving and supportive, encourages and praises me. She helps keep me sane. I have two lovely cats, we are friends, they sleep with me at night, the old one sleeps a lot she is 16, the young one likes to play with me, they are not lap cats, which I would like, but they are who are they are and I love them lots. I call my brothers in England, and three old friends in Calif. I have hobbies, I do some gardening, feed the birds and try to identify them, feed the squirrels love to watch them chase each other. I like to cook, so as I am retired after 45 years of work, I have time to experiment.
I love to read, so try to find time each day for a little of that. I quit work at 7 pm so I can watch a program on TV. I love PBS it is educational and the photography, on the nature programs is beautiful. There a groups here that you can get together with people on line, and people you can chat with on the phone. Do a search on your computer. I have hobbies that keep me engaged, coloring books, rock painting, I do Yoga, there is a CD on Chair Yoga. I do not know what your disability is, look for support groups, that would be an outlet. Hope this has been of help. I send you strength, courage, love and hugs.......Sprinkle 1....
Thank you.
I am an extrovert and just don't like being alone.
My disability is Depression.
Because of my mental illness, my family has disowned me-
And I have a few friends, but not many that I can call and do things with.
I think I appear needy.
Because I have been depressed and not functioning for 22 years, I have not been able to work at all-
I have pretty much been in bed-
My mom and dad have been taking care of me.
They even bought me my own townhouse-
And kept up everything with it-
My car, went food shopping for me-
I wouldn't be alive without them.
My parents are now 82 and can't help me any more-
I have started taking a medication which has helped me start to function more
And I feel like I am waking up to a nightmare-
I am 52-
I am all alone
I never had the chance to have children
I have no retirement
My six sisters hate me and have deleted me from the family.
They want nothing to do with me.
They are all very high achievers-
MDs, lawyers, etc.
My dad can't take care of my car anymore-
I know nothing about cars.
I know nothing about taking care of houses-
But I still have dad paying a lot of the finances.
Dad is 82.
My heart is breaking writing this, but he won't be around forever.
I don't know how I am going to pay all of the bills that Dad paid for me.
What my parents have left will be divided by seven.
Dad won't be there to help me if my car breaks down or something goes wrong with the house-
And I only get $900 a month.
I don't know how I have lived this long.
I wake up every morning very depressed and anxious bc I know I need to be working but I am not sure I can function at a job.
I dog sit-and I get anxious.
I get very depressed and anxious being alone and not being busy-
I have my Masters Degree but can't even get a minimum wage job because I have such a big gap in my work history-
And I get so anxious.
I know thinking about life without dad is making me depressed and anxious
Because I know I need to prepare
His death is going to hit me very HARD.
Not being able to pay the finances is going to be overwhelming.
I know I run people off because I am so needy-
And I don't want to be.
But, I just can't make my life work.
Walking helps a lot.
I can't even concentrate on movies or books bc I wish I would have gotten married or had a family and it makes me sad.
I have so many regrets.
I just feel my life is over and I am trapped.
I hope that being able to come on here and talk about everything that is going on helps you feel a lot better. Definitely, due to covid, there is not much we can do at the moment. But, being on here you have plenty of people to talk with! Not physically with you, but hopefully in mind, heart, and spirit, it helps to ease some of the pain. My heart is heavy hearing about all the things you're dealing with, just remember you are not alone with how you feel.
Hey Grace, can't even imagine the life that you are living.
Just wanted to ask, are you allergic to dogs? How about getting a service animal. Honestly, it can be life-changing.
Sorry in advance if I am being insensitive. I don't even know what your disability it and it's wrong to assume that you can even keep a pet.
I have a townhouse.
I have cats, but they offer me no comfort.
My disability is depression.
Hi Grace. I live alone too, it can be so hard sometimes, especially at the moment as we are so isolated with this pandemic. I am here if you want to talk x
Being lonely can be so difficult. I think there are two kinds of lonely: wanting to connect with other people, and wanting to be social. Many of us are lonely because we cannot have company in person due to covid, but there are ways you can connect with people, places like here for one.
Is there a way you can socialize online? My friends often have "get togethers" on video chat where they eat, drink, and do crafts together. You could explore chat rooms with people who share your interests!
Hey. Please think of us as new buddies. Who knows after all this we could meet!
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