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I’ve been suffering with anxiety for about year now gotten a lot worse in last few months and for about 10 months the only way of coping with major stress up set of a heated argument is repeatedly hiring my self on the head for some stupid reason it makes me feel better and it’s just becoming more and more often seems to be every time I’m up set I’m scared to talk to the doctors about it in case They think I’m a unfit mother and start investigating me and worse case take my babies away my partner thinks that might be the case too I don’t know what to do is that really the case. Do I need to keep this to myself and try and deal with it on my own

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I am also a mother and understand your concerns for your family. Learning to cope and deal with issues on our own is simple in theory but in action it is extremely hard. Maybe take a step back and look at each situation as if you're an outsider about to give advice to your child. I can tell you would do anything to make sure your children are safe and in this case I would seek help to allow them to see even superwoman needs a little help sometimes and it is okay to get it. Bless you and your family💜

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b1b1b1 in reply to ACVF

Seeing a psychiatrist or a therapist is a perfectly legitimate thing to do. Also, you can try punching a pillow instead of hitting yourself over the head.

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Sj5314 in reply to b1b1b1

Okay thank you for your reply

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Sj5314 in reply to ACVF

Thank you for your reply means a lot made me feel abit better my children are my everything and just can’t help feeling I’m letting them down by keep falling into this habit of beating myself up emotionally and fiscally

You need to ask yourself why you think you deserve to be punished.

You are worthy of more than that.Did you get treated like this from one of your parents.Codependency to pain and unworthiness can be fixed if you are prepared to either seek help, or tell yourself that you love you, and that the time to be punished because someone else never showed you love or praise is over.Learn to tell yourself every day that you appreciate who you are, that you are worth loving.Write one little note to stick on your mirror...

"I love you." Say it and believe it...those three words say more to your soul than anyone else could ever say in a thousand.Be kind to yourself...

When you learn to love yourself...forgive yourself....only then can you love and forgive others...

Stop hitting...start to love....let go of the past hurts ....and forgive.

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Thank you very much for reply really useful advice, my parents didn’t really not that they have been great more looked after my self however I think deep down I know partly the reason I’m getting like this my partner suffers from really bad anxiety and used to have ago phobia and when ever something stressful happens he finds it hard to deal with and will start a massive argument about something silly also happens on nearly every important event because he just nervous before it and now i think I’m just waiting for a ticking time bom and in turn I’ve turned into one too just want to stop feeling like this

I don't know, but it seems to me your partner is encouraging you to think that if you seek help you may be declared an unfit mother. It's terrifying to think of the government taking your children. Why would your partner want you terrified?

You talked about dealing with "major stress". Perhaps you can find someone to help you work through the stress before it gets to self-harm again?

I haven't tried it myself, but I have read that 7-cups (Google it) has a free online service that links you with a peer to talk to about what is bothering you. They will not work with someone with suicidal ideation. If that's going on you'll have to look elsewhere. Asking for help is okay... that's what you're doing here, isn't it?

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Sj5314 in reply to Nothing_but_books

Thank you for the reply to be honest my partner suffers from really bad anxiety and used to have ago phobia and when ever something stressful happens he finds it hard to deal with and will start a massive argument about something silly also happens on nearly every important event because he just nervous before it and now i think I’m just waiting for a ticking time bom and in turn I’ve turned into one too

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Nothing_but_books in reply to Sj5314

Take care of yourself first. Isn't that what they tell you on an airplane -- to take care of yourself first? It's instinct to take care of your family first. But what use are you to them if you collapse?

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Look into magnesium therapy....this actually works.Magnesium Threonate calms the mind...Magnesium Glycinate calms the body helps you stay relaxed and stress free...research Dr.Carolyn Dean.

I admire you for opening up and be honest. Nothing is as hard as losing one's children. I am not going to be long, as long as you think about your children's safety you will make the best decision. It is not about what other people think, not even you, but the safety of your children. Yes if you tell your therapist, she might have ur children taken away but still it is about the children. If they see progress, they will bring back the kids. I know this will work against ur emotions and feelings, but all I can say is that if you think about the kids which I know you want and are, you will do what is right and you know what is right. While we are here to support you, we should not lie to you and put children's life in danger. I hope you do that which is right.

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