In need of support right now

[Kevin87]

Hi all,

I’m so sorry I haven’t been on here lately. As I’m sure you can imagine I’ve been quite preoccupied trying to figure everything out post covid.

A year ago I lost my job, and my career prospects seem more bleak than ever. I live in New York and things have been getting more difficult as I’ve applied to tons of jobs with 0 callback which doesn’t make me feel like I have much stake in the world I like in right now.

The real issue TODAY though, is that both of my best friends are moving. They are huge support systems for me and a gave me a great feeling of normalcy and happiness over the last few years. For them to be leaving, it feels as if I’m left with less than I had before, and that a sense of normalcy and happiness is now gone. I know in reality that I am immensely happy for them, however it doesn’t change my feelings of loss over the situation. I only want to feel like things are normal and happy right now, and it hurts to have things still continue to change and “leave”. I’ve been so much more depressed than ever the last few months, and to have this happen is a huge blow to my happiness right now.

How have you managed when you feel loss, when your loved ones move away, and when you’re just feeling like everything is moving past you?

Any words of encouragement and support would be greatly appreciated. I’ll be around tonight if anyone has anything they need to talk about as well 🖤

Much love

K

[Hb2003]

Hello Kevin i am so sorry that this is happening . Much kindness and support

[Kevin87 in reply to Hb2003]

Thanks so much! I appreciate it

[Crochet1957]

I’m sorry Kevin this couldn’t be happening at a worst time for you

[Kevin87 in reply to Crochet1957]

Thank you, I agree! Not good timing at all

[gabrielle00]

hey kevin! im so sorry to hear that your best friends are moving. feeling grief over this is totally valid. but the great thing about technology is that you can video call and text them now!

[Kevin87 in reply to gabrielle00]

Thanks Gabrielle, that’s so true! Hoping I’ll be able to get passed this soon

[JP8810]

I'm sorry to hear of all the things you are dealing with. It may not help right now, but know u are not alone. Many people are in similar situation. Do you have any family in the area and do you belong to a place of faith such as a church? I've found that the right church family can be a great source of connection. I also find that volunteering is a great way to get outside of my head for a while. Plus it's a good place to make new friends. I wish you peace and I will say a prayer for you.

[CopingwithEx]

So sorry to hear things are tough for you just now. Always here if you need someone to chat to. Hoping you get past this rough time soon🤞🏼

[Choctawgirl]

Oh wow! I am so sorry 😞😞😞. I just can't imagine. However, I want to say this. Maybe this could help you...idk. I have a best friend who her and her family may move in the future as well. She is my EVERYTHING! I love her so much! She is an AWESOME mother and friend! If/when they move, I will be devastated! So....I was thinking how I would deal with that. My thinking is that I could zoom w her and maybe go out to see her once a year. The distance is drivable.

So I was thinking would you be able to do the same thing? Like do a zoom w them? Would it be drivable for you to go see them?

I'm sure the job thing is INSANE! Were you able to get unemployment?

Ha! For me to keep my spirits up, I try to go for a drive and listen to my music or go for a walk when it's not FREEZING OUT. I vent to my one other friend. I watch funny movies or bake and give away the goodies...I do keep some for myself tho haha.

We are here for you!!

🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏