Hi everyone. I joined this site quite sometime ago but this is my first time posting. It took me so long to post because I have a fear of talking about my problems/feelings due to past experiences with opening up to people. I’ve never had support. Anytime I’ve ever tried to to tell someone about what I’m going through they would just criticize or ridicule me. I feel like no one cares, in fact, I KNOW no one cares. No one around me cares if I live or die, and living this loveless life is becoming unbearable. I feel like a dog that’s been left out in the cold chained to a stake, forgotten and left to suffer. No compassion in my life whatsoever makes it extremely difficult to deal with my extreme depression and I’m honestly tired of trying. Please, someone help me...
I feel so alone. : Hi everyone. I... - Anxiety and Depre...
I feel so alone.
I know your brain is telling that no one cares, but i care. Would you like to talk to me about what is going on for you?
I would like to because I definitely need to, I just have to get over the fear opening up again. Thank you so much for being willing to listen.
Welcome if we did not get the chance to welcome you. I am so sorry you feeling like this. I did once feel like that and it is mostly scarey and tiring. You are not alone here. We have your back, talk to us and we can help whe we can. Depression has the power to make one feel alone and worthless, we know ur feeling. We have your back here
Your support is greatly appreciated, friend. I’m trying hard to crawl out of this current depressive episode, I’ve never felt this bad before, and your support is much needed.
Ur loneliness is long gone friend. U have found amazing people here who once were where u are.
I understand how having no one around you in person to care is so demoralizing. It is one of the most painful experiences a person can go through, being truly alone. However, this is the hard part and also sucks, the rebuilding starts with you. You have to have self love and self compassion. Building up those two things will give you the courage to obtain what you seek, genuine human connection. We can wish for it to happen but we cannot connect with anyone if we are not putting ourselves out there. It's hard to establish bonds if you are not willing to open up to others. Now don't get me wrong you don't have to say your life story every time, it's more about just allowing yourself to be in the moment and slightly vulnerable. It's a risk meeting people, I understand but we have to take that risk in order to get anywhere. So my recommendations for you are as follows, first get a therapist to help you work through you current issues. CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) and DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy) are great options. There is also EMDR therapy for trauma related experiences. I would contact your current general practitioner and get recommendations. Next, begin taking steps to build self love and self compassion. This is very difficult but it is what you need most as everything else is built from this one foundation. So start with something small like treating yourself. Watch your favorite movie. Listen to relaxing music. Do something for you. Take care of yourself and then with that comes self love. Think about what makes you valuable as a person. Work on positive affirmations and above all else be kind to yourself.
Thank you for your kind words and insight. I’m 45 years old, been dealing with depression and suicidal thoughts since at least 10 years old. I’ve never been to therapy or have been on any medication but maybe it’s time I seek both. My whole life I’ve been burying my pain instead of dealing with it, trying to stay strong for others because I know they needed me. Now it feels like all of my hurt has resurfaced to destroy me, and nobody I’ve reached out to seems to care which makes it worse.
That must be tough having to deal with depression alone since you were 10 years old, you are not suffering alone now. You don’t need to always be strong for others. I understand that it will take time and trusting others to open up about your feelings but you are so strong to start today. Would it help to speak with a doctor that you trust first? Just go at your own pace, small steps are best for recovery.
I understand. I have had depression since that age as well. I also tried to be strong for everyone around me and in doing so buried my own hurt and suffering. I did this until it finally broke me. It's incredibly difficult and it hurts. I am sorry you are having to deal with that right now. I don't know if they don't care, others have a very hard time relating to problems like ours because they don't see the broken pieces that lead to the circumstances we are in. They don't see the lack of self trust. They don't see the need to push your own pain away. They don't see the invalidation or the paranoia. They just don't get it. So it's hard. I definitely think getting into therapy is a great option for anyone. It really does help. One thing I will say though is that you are strong for having done this for so long. You have survived and that is admirable. It's also a sign of strength that you see the issues right now. And it's an even better sign that you want to fix it. I am not going to tell you it's easy. it's not. It's one of the most difficult things I have ever done in my entire life. I am still struggling with it now. But it will be worth it. The way I like to see it is running up a hill. The first 100 times are truly awful. It is nothing but pain and suffering. But one day you will notice you suffer a little less and a little less. Each time you run up that hill it get's easier and easier until one day you are doing it with no issues. That is the same thing with healing yourself. But through all the pain and suffering know this. You are strong. You are capable. You are worthy. And you are more than enough.
Hi! It sounds like you’ve been invalidated a lot and now you believe that your feelings truly aren’t valid. I believe everybody’s feelings are valid. They aren’t always healthy or nice but they are human emotions. Please know that there will always be people out there rooting for you even if we have never met you in real life. I can relate to what you said because I’ve been in a similarly dark place myself feeling very helpless and hopeless. I really admire the fact that you reached out to people and asked for help. That takes courage and strength and self-respect. So thank you for showing us how to use those traits to help us get out of a difficult time. ❤️
This speaks to my soul. You have put it so accurately HelloDucky.
🥺 Aw! Thank you!
Exactly. I wish the people in my life had the same understanding that you have, and it’s definitely refreshing to know that I’m not alone in how I feel. Thank you for taking the time to reply and thank you for the compliments and words of encouragement, you’ve helped me more than you know...
That's incredibly kind of you to say 
I hope you meet some people out there in the concrete jungle who see you and validate you. They exist, I promise!
Hi. I’ve also neglected to post out of fear...We all are going through a struggle that we think nobody will understand or relate to...or worse, judge. Hope you are getting some comfort today...I am also having a rough one. I wish my relationships with others did not dictate my mood so much...Feeling alone sucks...
Just know there are others out there feeling similar things...hang in there. You are not alone in this.
Thank you for your support. I’m just now peeling myself out of bed (5pm smh) and trying to better my mood. Your reply has helped, and I pray that your day improves as well. I’m a mess at the moment but if you’d ever like to talk, I can try to put my pieces back together long enough to help you pick up yours.
Hi! You are so kind and caring. Thank you! Hope your day is improving too. Its okay to have a rough day, sometimes we need to feel things...let it out...and start all over. If you ever want to chat, i’m here, too!
It takes great courage to open up about our feelings, you are doing great sharing how you are feeling in this post. I completely understand your fear of talking about you problems because of people not understanding. I think a lot of people don’t understand mental health issues unless they have had it themselves, but trust me there are people out there that do care about you. Sometimes we have to open up to the right people, that’s what I’ve learnt from having my own problems. I’m so glad you have managed to reach out on here, it’s the first step.
Thank you so much for responding. I’m really want help and I’m trying to keep it together, and I’m grateful to everyone here for offering such kind words. I honestly feel a bit better.
It’s ok to not always have it together, it’s ok to share your feelings. You matter and you’re feelings matter.
I think we need to care about ourselves. I am very alone. Sometimes I can deal with it and other times I feel like you. Do something simple for you. Even a shower and washing my hair made me better on a really bad day
I love that you pointed that out, even small acts of self-care can fill us up when we are feeling empty. Amazing advice!
You are absolutely correct and believe me I’ve tried. I bought myself a new SUV recently trying to pull myself out of this dark place and even that didn’t work. Nothing I’ve done seems to work anymore, even the things I used to enjoy no longer interest me. I’ve come to realize that I’ve hit rock bottom, and what I need most is something that my life is completely devoid of....compassion. Amazing how the people on this thread have shown me more compassion than the people in my life have ever shown me, and I am grateful for each and every one of you.
Hi AlmostGone, you took your first step today in reaching out. When you feel ready
we will be here w/o judgment and with much care and love. It's going to be okay xx
Thank you so much for that. I can’t believe how much better I feel just by getting some of my feelings off my chest and receiving some positive feedback! This dark place that I’m in is a little less dark thanks to you all. Hopefully I can pull myself out of this dark place soon and try to begin speaking with you all and myself, and also offer my support to anyone here in need.
In time dear...we all get there when the time is right for us. xx
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