Help/ Depression/SelfHelp

[mcginnmx]

Ok here is what is going on let’s start off what happen yesterday and the day before.The day before I strained my arm to the point it hurt my whole arm I felt like I needed a sling.I went to work the next day my arm was in so much pain that I had to leave work. I got 3 points taken off for leaving early. They cannot do work injury claim if I strained my muscle. My mother thinks it is cause I wanted attention. I don’t want attention I am overwhelmed not do I want sympathy. When I got home my mom found my bathroom a mess now I don’t mind her outbursts. But cause I live with a cat my room smelled of cat pee. Again I don’t blame her it was my fault. I didn’t say sorry cause how would sorry help. It won’t fix my action . I don’t know what has gotten into me I don’t take care of myself anymore. I am a people pleaser but when I am selfish everyone has a expection for me. All I really want is to go back to teaching but I can’t leave this work till I have vaccine. My depression has taken a hold of me and won’t let me go back to what I once enjoyed. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I know my anixety is high and so is my depression I feel no self accomplishment. I don’t know if you can understand this cause I am dyslexic. An words are hard to explain and I been to so many therapists I need to find myself. So basically I am overworked to exhaustion, I am unable to take care of myself, and something subconscious is effecting me other than being a people pleaser.

[hypercat54]

Saying sorry does help as it shows the other person you understand and have taken responsibility.

As for being 'selfish' you are not. It is self preservation to take care of your own needs and if you don't then you can end up with depression or anxiety or other mental disorders.

Are others selfish because they want you to help them? We learn to be people pleasers and we can also learn to please ourselves too. If you are happier then those who love you are happier too.

It's not your job to take care of other people, but it is to take care of yourself and your own needs.

[FearIsALiar]

I’m a people pleaser too. Trying to get out of that habit.