todays issue

[UNC23]

Why is it so hard for certain people to understand my depression and my triggers even after I have communicated them

[Hb2003]

some people don’t listen or don’t understand

[Hidden]

Sorry u are feeling like that but are you refering to people who also suffer from depression and enxiety or just people in general? The reason I am asking is that depression is like a demon. A demon is invisible but only seen by a spiritual person. Now, depression is only understood by one who surlffers from it. I never get mad when people don't understand this demon and I hardly talk about it to people who don't have it bcz I will be wasting my breath. This is why I have joined this group, everyone here gets it. Unfortunately we want our family members and friends to understand it but unfortunately they can never understand it, it is what it is and we need to accept it. Sorry tho

[UNC23 in reply to Hidden]

its about those who do not have it.

[Hidden in reply to UNC23]

Yah I get u, they can't tho. Until u suffer from it, u can't fully appreciate it. Sometimes they think we are attention seekers which is not even close. It not their fault. When u feel it, just come to us, we get u even tho the intensity is not the same but we have an idea about it.

[ongaku666]

Seems like a generic question, care to give more information on how they behave? What they say? How you'd like them to behave?

There are a myriad answers to your question. And yes most commonly people have little awareness and sometimes even less respect, but can we help you identify ways to deal with their behaviour if you tell us more?

[Pinkie56]

I'm not sure but I think it has something to do with their not being able to face their own shortcomings. To admit you are not perfect then they have to admit they are not perfect. It is worse when you are in treatment. They will make fun of your progress. It is easier than owning up to the fact that they may actually be a part of the problem. Or that they feel powerless to help you. So they shift the blame to you because it couldn't possibly be them. They can now carry own with a clear conscience. That's just a mind game they play with themselves. The shame of it is that they should be caring for the one in need not being an ostrich with his head in the sand.

[Pinkie56]

One more thing: they also might be worried that once you are better you will not want them around anymore. 12 step programs sometimes ask that you cut ties with toxic people. This does not mean that you stop seeing people who are on your side even if they can't express that thought. They need patience just as much as we do.

[Choctawgirl]

They just don't want to hear it or don't want to take the time to understand it. We are here. Please reach out as much as you want. Hugs!!