You are being thought of in a positive way. What have you done in the past to help you through this?

[Cleaningthehouse]

Hello,

I am sorry that you are in the depths of depression. I don't always know the right words, but please know that I care about you.

I'm a mom with a son who has depression and I hate to see him in this pain. What have you done in the past to cope with it?

You will be thought of.

[Hb2003]

I have done therapy to go past through it

[Cleaningthehouse in reply to Hb2003]

I am talking to a therapist for myself today. Your reply was the reminder that I had a session today!

[Hb2003 in reply to Cleaningthehouse]

That is good ❤️i hope that your therapy session goes well ❤️. Much kindness and support

[Hidden]

That’s a very thoughtful post. Sorry your son has depression, you sound like you care a lot and are very loving. Sometimes just people listening to the person with depression, not interrupting them when they speak, just being there is the best.

The thing that has helped me the most has been therapy, but I went through a few to get the right one for me. Has your son talked about why he is depressed? There might not always be a cause though. Hope your son gets better.

[Cleaningthehouse in reply to Hidden]

What a wonderful "thing" these chats are! I didn't think anyone would read them let alone respond.

Thank you for your kind words. I do love my son and am so pained at my inability to help him. I did find a therapist for him and I spoke with her last night. The important part is his call to her as he is an adult.

I don't think I've been the best at listening to him in the past, but I am focused now. He feels trapped and a failure because he took a job he does not like.

We've outlined several options for him so that he can see he is not stuck. He has a comeback line as to why he can't do this option or that one.

I am visiting him in a very far away state and it has taken a week to begin to inch through some of the barriers he has put up. B.ut he is trying and that is so important.

Again my appreciation for caring

[froggymom88]

I know how difficult it is when our children are suffering. When my son has been in a bad place I tried to be available for him without being overbearing. I will call him and just let him talk. Sometimes I make him a sandwich or soup and bring it over. Just being present for him often goes a long way. Hugs.

[Cleaningthehouse in reply to froggymom88]

Thank you for the supportive words. I am out of my element, but being there I can do.

[Sankissjuice]

Smother your son with love and attention. I say affirmations. Chant. Pray. Meditate.

Take medications. Move. Walk.

Be thick skinned and ask people for help. Reach out.

Even after doing all these, the struggles will still be there. Keep persevering.

[Cleaningthehouse in reply to Sankissjuice]

Thank you for the push. It was needed. Your words ring true. I will persevere.

[Sankissjuice in reply to Cleaningthehouse]

We will persevere together. I am aiming for a better sleep tonight and better day tomorrow. Totally not productive today.

[Hidden]

I am sorry your son is suffering. So the first thing you can do for your son is just be there for him. Remind him that he is loved and cared for. That is one thing that is often overlooked. Sometimes a simple "I love you" and "you matter to me" can do wonders. The other things that I am doing now are working on self compassion and getting a routine in. I find that when I get extremely depressed I stop eating and I even forget to drink water. I basically lie in bed all day just staring out at nothing. So in order to combat this I end up doing small things to build up to getting at the bigger ones. Right now I focus on just getting out of bed at least once a day and brushing my teeth. I know this seems small and insignificant but those are big steps for me. That is what I have been trying anyway. I won't lie and say it works right away. Self care is something that takes time to build to but after a while it does make a difference.