the jackhole crap brother saga continues...

[13ga]

quick recap: i've been sleeping over @ mom's for 2 nights / week ever since my step-dad passed. mom hasn't told my brother this - because she knows him, and doesn't want to deal with his bullcrap.

additional stress came sun night when mom's furnace went out. my nephew (bro's son) dropped off several space heaters. and the furnace was fixed the next morning. i'm needless to say; back @ mom's. and i heard her say to my brother - "i'll be here for lunch on thu - and i can bring the several of the heaters back to my house to save my nephew the longer drive out to mom's". to which my bro says no way!! i don't want my heaters in "his" house - apparently they'll pickup covid and cooties from me.

FORGET the fact that i have legitimate made in usa n95 masks that i've had for years. forget the fact that outside of grocery shopping for my mom, and 1 night volunteering / week @ animal shelter (only in last 2 mo's) - i haven't left my friggin house!

ADD to this that my jackhole of a brother and 1 son had covid back in april. and 2 wks before my stepdad's stroke gave his younger son permission to SLEEP OVER AT A FRIENDS HOUSE - in the middle of a worldwide pandemic in which several new more infectious strains have been discovered... and guess what!!!??? the little spit for brains came home with covid!!!!!! - which 1 week later, he generously shared w/ my jackhole brother - and yes, virginia you CAN get covid twice!!!

so now my bro's household has had FOUR FRACKING cases of covid - and my household - wait for it... see if you can count this high - has had 0. ZERO. bupcus. zip. nada - cases of covid. but i can't take his heaters because he's afraid he'll get covid from MY house!??!?!?!?!?!? WT Frack??????

so apparently, the other day mom let it slip that i had spent 1 night - probably not a bad thing in the big picture, but the response that mom got for that disclosure was on the order of " WHAT? HOW COULD YOU?".

apparently my "loving brother" only wants mom to get comfort and aid if it comes from him. and if he can't even be here for her because of the brain surgery he had in his butt cheek - then mom is simply not deserving of any other compassion.

and that folks - is how a self-centered narcissist money grubbing piece of cow dung sorry excuse for a son and brother shows compassion for his newly widowed mother and loss of his step dad.

let's check the score card - i know i'm leaving stuff out... but the highlights:

- don't do anything w/ dad's office - because I WANT STUFF.

- don't let [me] stay overnight - because he's not safe - even tho me and my kids have had covid 4 times; and i've clearly demonstrated my complete lack of compassion and ability to even use common sense.

i know there's crap loads more - but i honestly can't remember spit at the moment. i'm losing my fracking mind. and i'm watching my mother deal with this unbelievable bullspit - when she SHOULD be focusing on processing the loss of her beloved husband of nearly 50 years!!!!!

[Hb2003]

I am so sorry about that sending my love and support ❤️❤️🙏🫂

[13ga in reply to Hb2003]

ty, hiba... appreciated! 💜

[Hb2003 in reply to 13ga]

Your welcome 😄❤️

[Agora1]

How sad is it when a parent has lost the love of her life and isn't allowed to grieve in

a peaceful way because of sibling rivalry. 13ga, I know how upset (beyond upset) you

are over your brother's insensitivity. This happens in many families after the death of

a parent(s). There will always be one sibling whose hand is out before the end of the funeral.

"I want, I want, I need, I deserve" all selfish. Your mother may not even be close in wanting

to part with anything of your fathers right now. She is still processing the loss in what they had for 50 years as well as where does she go from here.

And you dear friend, seemed caught in the middle. When I read your comments, I can feel

your blood pressure rising as you are writing us. When do you get to step back and grieve?

I worry about you and your mother with all that's going on around her, it's become an unhealthy situation.

You've mentioned about your own issues that you first came on the forum for, only now to be complicated by the loss of your stepdad, the worry and concern regarding your mother and the anger between you and your brother. As they say, you can't burn the candle at both ends. You're going to burn out soon.

You're a smart man. The more I read your posts and responses, the more I see how highly

intelligent you are. I somehow feel your brother may always have been in competition with you.

Take some time for YOU...it's important. Breathe xx

[13ga in reply to Agora1]

omg, agora!!! yes yes yes!! nailed it!

i think it was the very next day after my step dad died - don't even think his body was moved to the friggin funeral home yet ---- and my bro starts asking mom - when do you wanna clean out dad's office!?!?!?

before my mom could even speak - which i think she was in shock he even asked that - i jumped in and said - we're not touching anything at least until the summer - and then IF mom even wants to. you'd think i just took a dump on his foot!!!

as for your worries - from my brain thru your mouth!!!

and agora - you are bang on your analysis of my bro... he's been competing against me forever - and has never figured out - i'm not racing!!! it's like the entire rivalry is happening in his head - and he's playing both roles!

we're hardly friends, let alone brothers... everytime we speak - which is rare - he drives me friggin nuts!

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i'm sooo appreciative for your support! i'm def. feeling tired, sore, beat-up, and emotionally exhausted.. i def. need to get hard into my meditating and breathe!!

also some upper body work probably wouldn't hurt - cause if i ever do swing that 4x4 - i don't wanna have to swing it twice! once i may be able to claim insanity - but i'm not sure if two or more times would still reach that legal bar!! xxx