Sacrifice

[brokenankle75]

I know it’s better to be alone than be in a miserable relationship. I was in one for 10 years. So I’ve been doing online dating and I met someone and I’m starting to have feelings for him but he’s mean sometimes, flies off the handle, Because I really don’t know what I’m asking for here maybe just to say that my feelings are hurt. I am obsessing about it I pray to God to help me keep those thoughts out of my mind and for strength. But I’m in a constant state of anxiety thinking about him

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Just thinking, maybe stay away from him for a bit and not take his calls the next time. See if this willl get his attention to something is wrong. Then when he asks - you then can talk to him about your observations and how it makes you feel.....just a thought

[FriendlyDude]

Most people are mean sometimes, what matters is that they try to make things right and prevent it from happening again. Life is a process of continually improving as human beings to become the best people we can be more loving, more understanding, and all those good things.

Talk to him about what you’re anxious about, kindly tell him how “being mean” made you feel, and see what he does. That’s the real test 😉 if he apologizes, tries to make things right, shows an increase in love/kindness and concern for you, that’s something you want, right? However, if he blows it off and doesn’t care, keeps doing whatever he did, that’s a sign that you may want to find another guy.

I hope that helps, best of luck to you

[brokenankle75 in reply to FriendlyDude]

You know it really does. And he has made noticeable attempts and I told him I see the difference in flying off the handle. He watches porn all the time and EXTREMELY bothers me and I told him about it and said he won’t play it all the time. Idk I see all these relationships start out good and end in disaster and I know that’s the chance you have to take. So I am. A major problem of mine is im a really jealous person and I don’t know how to get past it. He’s not a jealous person. It’s both sides of the spectrum cuz if you’re just not affected by something that I feel warrants another response in showing some feeling of jealousy shows you’re into that person.

[Rafiki11]

Character is the most important thing to look for in a partner. Patience, kindness, humility....

You’re right. It’s better to be alone than be in a miserable relationship.

[hypercat54]

To be honest I would run a mile. Do you want to be with someone who's mean and flies off the handle at you? I know I wouldn't.