How do i say/ask this.

[Mishell11]

So today, when i had gone to meet my boyfriend at his workplace, we had a conversation about cleavage and his friend there, was like what is wrong with women wearing whatever they want to and suddenly he jumped onto her, and start undoing her buttons in front of me. Well i think he did not touch her but, that felt very uncomfortable and i really want to tell him that. I want to strongly say that i will never again resist myself standing there watching any of these crap.

How do i ask this to him/say this to him in a decent yet mature way. I want to handle this without any drama.

[hypercat54]

Ask him if he would be ok with you doing the same thing to a male friend?

[Mishell11 in reply to hypercat54]

Well nothing worked.

[hurtingheart1 in reply to Mishell11]

I agree it’s a good question to ask him!

[Hidden]

Sounds crazy to me!!

[Mishell11 in reply to Hidden]

It seemed very much crazy to me too. And for a second i thought i was being orthodox with me asking him that. Self doubt has taken me to wrong places, and this is the first time i am actually ever disagreeing with someone.

[Perriex]

His behavior is unacceptable. I think you need to tell him that. Let him know that you will not tolerate behavior like that. Stay strong.

[Mishell11 in reply to Perriex]

Yeah. Thankyou.

[hurtingheart1]

I agree with Perriex and I think it’s also very disrespectful behavior!!! It very important to be honest with him about this and be cautious maybe &think carefully about his response!

[san_ray70 in reply to hurtingheart1]

I presume that he was sober, my husbands cousins friend grabbed my boob at a party. I turned away from him, but I did not tell my husband until later. He was annoyed, but I have not seen that man since, if he is included next time, I will not stay anywhere near him.

[Mishell11 in reply to hurtingheart1]

YEah it was disrespectful to her, but she was okay with it. That is what surprised me, but when i think about it, because they share a physical relationship in the history i am not that surprised presuming that she had feelings for him then. And maybe it is still there. Things are pretty much complicated. I am fucked up.

[hurtingheart1]

I’m sorry to hear your last statement - it’s very good you’re posting on here so no I don’t agree you are not what you said!! take good care of yourself and I really hope things will get better and if this person really cares it’s possible they can change bad behaviors if they don’t want to lose you just know your value and your standards that you won’t compromise on if they really aren’t right for you there’s hope ahead to meet the 1 that is right for you!! 🌻🦋