Tired

[chefcc]

So from time to time I guess I lash out on my significant other and I feel that he just doesn’t understand me. I feel that I don’t understand him when he’s in his moods of paranoia and it’s just so draining. I know he has his own issues which I’ve tried to deal with. I’m just tired of having to constantly have to always defend myself. I’m sick of being accused of doing something I did not, but he seems to really believe I did or that I’m going behind his back to set him up. I feel at times when I say one thing to him he feels like I’m just shaming him when that’s not the case. If my feelings are to make him feel bad then that’s a different story. I feel there’s just too much emotion. At times it’s like he’s just like I can’t deal with your feelings cuz he has his own and he says can’t get a word in or he says I’m not hearing him out. I admit I have issues too. I’m just so tired of this up and down because I have my own things to deal with too. It’s really tiring when all you want is to show your love and they feel smothered than in a minute they say you’re not giving them attention. I want constant attention too and I need someone who can listen to me and it’s so hard to be with someone who has their own obstacles too. It’s just to hard to find a balance I know I’m trying I like to think he’s trying but I guess I’m that difficult to be around

[kvolm2016]

Relationship are HARD work, no doubt about it! Every relationship is made up of two people with both strengths and weaknesses. The tricky part is finding someone who is a good match for your strengths and weaknesses. And it definitely sounds like you are trying to be in a relationship with someone who is not a good match. Do you see enough positives in this relationship to make it worth working on or is it time to recognize that this is not going to work?

[chefcc in reply to kvolm2016]

Yeah I definitely see a lot of positive changes I’ve made because of Him and positive changes he’s made because of me. I can be overdramatic a lot of times but most of the time I make sense. We’re working through it some days are just harder than others. Thanks so much

[chefcc]

We’ve both looked into therapy

[Hidden]

Hi, maybe you both need some space from each other. You both need your friends and family too, maybe you're both spending too much time together. Covid doesn't help I know.

[chefcc in reply to Hidden]

THats what I was thinking. I feel like yeah some space is good for sure

[chefcc]

It’s ok I appreciate your replies thanks so much