NEED SUPPORT

[uniquecorn]

Hey, I just joined this community looking for support. I've been going through a lot of stress on top of depression due to my college entrance exams coming up. I want help in not having dark thoughts and not deepening the already existing depression which is in stage-2. I also have no idea or control over my thoughts, emotions, and mood swings.

[Hidden]

Hi and welcome! We will support you where we can!Do you have a therapist?

[uniquecorn in reply to Hidden]

I don't have a therapist. I couldn't bring myself to inform my parents about this condition

[Hidden in reply to uniquecorn]

I just looked at your bio. I'm glad that you're following that "deeper than that" feeling. We know ourselves best. If something is wrong it normally is. It might not feel good, but it's okay to feel whatever you feel. Can I ask why you don't want to talk to your parents about it? Like Catsamaze says, I think it would help with the pressure.🙂

[uniquecorn in reply to Hidden]

I always deal with these things alone usually. One of the reasons I'm scared to tell him is coz I might worry them and the other, most obvious is that I know they will think I'm overreacting. Maybe because I've always portrayed myself as this strong person so that no one will think of me as a weak girl who needs help but now that I really need help, I'm not sure if they would respond accordingly.

[Hidden in reply to uniquecorn]

You are not weak for feeling what you feel. It does not feel good, but it doesn't mean you're weak. To the contrary, you are strong to accept your feeling that something isn't right. That, my friend, is the first step. You'd be surprised the number of people who deny this feeling in themselves, so I want to commend you on taking this all-important first step!

Everyone needs help now and then. It does not mean you're weak to need help. It means you're human.

[uniquecorn in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for those words, really needed to hear 'em. I will work on accepting what I'm facing. I'm glad that you replied back and I'm hoping to talk to you more when I'm feeling down~

[Hidden in reply to uniquecorn]

Of course, dear. Any time😊

[uniquecorn in reply to Hidden]

Thanks alot~

[Catsamaze ADAA Volunteer]

First, welcome to the community. Exams bring out the worst of many symptoms. Once you get through those, and you will, see how you feel then....it might be very different. Just my two cents but you might feel the pressure decrease if you can share what’s going on with your folks.

[uniquecorn in reply to Catsamaze]

I did try talking to my best friend but I'm scared I'll worry him coz he has exam pressures too and moreover with quarantine and stuff, it's become impossible to physically meet and share and my depression hits the worst at nights when I literally have no one to reach out. I often end up crying hard.

[Tiggerakafidgity in reply to uniquecorn]

Hi unique

Such sadness,but worry not

Would you like to know and why you shouldn’t worry.

You’ve made the first step by reaching out to us.☺️

Secondly may I say,the ppl in here are absolutely gorgeous and speaking on behalf of all the beautiful ppl here you may share as much of as little as possible on here.

Please please pour your heart for all to share with your most torrid experience.

Let us help you take the heavy burden of life and it’s many stresses of your shoulder.

May I say that believe it or not there are many thousands of ppl in the same boat as your self.

May I suggest as others have,please speak to your parents.there is no Shame in leaning on your parents.believe it or not it is in there interest to nurture you feed you and so on and so on.you are there responsibly.

No doubt they have been some where similar to where you have been.

May I suggest when you are really crying that hard just go running to mum or dad,I’m sure they will open there arms to hold you tight to help you through this situation.

I’m sure your wanting mum or dad to say hey what’s up are you ok,I understand you can’t make the first move dealing with all your Shame of how you feel.

Take it from me.I know you will be absolutely fine.this is just a little test but with rift or wrong answer.

Have a nice day,yup even if it’s sunny outside open the window lay on the bed puts some headphones on and just breath in and feel the crisp sunny air

T

[uniquecorn in reply to Tiggerakafidgity]

Hey, thanks a lot for taking the time in explaining things. I will try talking to my parents about how I'm feeling. I'm trying to change my thinking and I'm working on it. Again, thanks a lot for typing such an elaborate message and I definitely found it useful.

[Tiggerakafidgity in reply to uniquecorn]

Hey no worries

That’s what we are here for.

What you could do though is type in

CBT ONLINE PRINT OUT SHEETS

Have a look and print some out if you are able.

You can then start to work on thos sheets which will help you to understand your feelings and emotions and this will help you see and feel your shXxt in a more productive positive way

T

[uniquecorn in reply to Tiggerakafidgity]

I will look into them. Thanks a lot. It honestly feels good to see so many suggestions and replies.

[Catsamaze ADAA Volunteer in reply to uniquecorn]

This may sound strange but I’m happy to hear that you’re crying when you need to. It means that you’re in touch with your emotions. They need to get out and you’re allowing that to happen. That’s a really good sign. It took me until two years ago to be able to cry. Before then, even in my worst depressive episodes I never cried. I couldn’t. And that hurt me. Glad that you shared even a little with your friend. It is best, if possible, to have a few different friends and/or family members who you can confide in so that none of them feels overwhelmed by your situation. That’s one of the great things about this community. We can’t substitute for all of the friends in your life, and we’re not actual members of your family, but we can and want to be one of the places you go to for support, empathy, reassurance, and advice. It isn’t one thing or place or person that’s going to make a lasting difference for you. It’s a tapestry that we all need, and we can be a part of your tapestry. You’re going to be ok.

[uniquecorn in reply to Catsamaze]

Thank you so much !! I'm glad to see your message and Yes it took me a while to let out my emotions too but it was sure worth it. Thanks for letting me know that it's okay to share what's going on with me and thanks for taking some time to listen to what I have to say about things going on in my life and I will be here to listen when you need me too

[FearIsALiar]

Welcome to the group!!!!!

[uniquecorn in reply to FearIsALiar]

Thanks~