Hopeless Guy

[Art_lover]

I'm 30 years old guy. My life feels worthless as I've nothing going in my life except feeling anxious and fear. I'm jobless and single and constantly feeling lonely. I have no social life whatsoever I try to get out of my comfort zone but nothing really works out for me. I feel hopeless and useless dont know what to do.

[Hidden]

You say you don’t know what to do, but joining us here is a great start! You can also start off by expressing how you are feeling because this feeling of worthlessness may go as quick as it comes. Or is it constant? For a 30 year old, you have experienced enough of life to have something great to offer. Have you been job searching? Having a social life is so much more difficult as an adult and no one talks about it and I’m not sure why we all struggle. I’ve learned to reciprocate my energy and those who reciprocate it back deserve to be added to my small circle. It’s hard to get out of your comfort zone, but you can do this with baby steps and truly finding what you enjoy the most. What makes you feel more alive! The pandemic has made things very difficult and created many of us to feel lonely, you are not alone.

[Agora1 in reply to Hidden]

Ditto Thanks LGrace xx

[Art_lover in reply to Hidden]

Thanx LGrace I glad to be part of this group. I have been job searching ever since my graduation in but with no luck. I do art but whenever I try to be productive but my depression gets in the way, I get irritated and I never finish my projects, I dont know how to get over this feeling. I even tried to go for therapy on a public clinic as I cannot pay for one but haven't received any help yet.

[Hidden in reply to Art_lover]

People who usually get jobs before or right after graduation are typically the lucky ones in my opinion. But don’t give up, we have experienced many recessions and finding a great job is never easy unfortunately yes I understand depression can get in the way of many things. I’ve noticed for me it also affects my productivity and my appetite the most. I don’t think it’s about getting over the feeling, I think it has more to do with accepting it for now and not letting it determine how you will spend the rest of your life. You can check out a free clinic in your area for mental health support.

Bad news: time flies

Good news: we’re the pilots👩‍✈️

I’d also like to add that I also had and still am having a difficult time getting over someone I wasn’t with for that long, only 4 month and for some reason no one can compare to how this man made me feel. Nonetheless, what’s meant for us will never make us second guess ourselves and our well being so I accept this pain and use it to understand myself and what I want in a partner moving forward.

[Agora1]

Welcome Art_lover LGrace is right in that coming here was your first step forward

in reaching your goals. I'm glad you are here with us. xx

[Art_lover in reply to Agora1]

Thanx Agora1

[Hidden]

Well with this pandemic going on, there isn't a lot you can do now until more people get vaccinated. I know these feelings too well, I'm a woman who's out of work myself. Just be kind to yourself, maybe watch something that makes you laugh or do something working with your hands. I hope you feel better.

[Art_lover in reply to Hidden]

Thanx Hidden I do work with my hands doing art and gardening. I feel better when I do gardening.

[FearIsALiar]

Welcome to the group. I know the feeling all too well. I’m jobless too and single. You’re definitely not alone.

[Art_lover in reply to FearIsALiar]

Thanx FearIsALiar

[pink318]

Hi- Welcome to the group!

I have a sister who was diagnosed with anxiety but she refused treatments. It was heartbreaking to see her suffering. Me and my other sisters are her support group. I talk to her about anything almost everyday to let her know that she’s not alone.

She started attending a life group. At first she was shy but after a few meetings, she started sharing her life experience with the group. Her Involvement with her life group helped her mood to improve. She volunteers to our community, she has pets and she loves her plants.

It would be great if you have someone you can talk to, someone you can trust your feelings with or feel free to post here anytime. I hope you will find comfort and encouragement here. I’m glad you found us. We are here for each other. Stay strong. Praying for you for peace and strength.

[Art_lover in reply to pink318]

Thanx pink318 finding this group has made it easy for me to speak my heart out and I'm glad to have found it.

[Alladin]

Hi Art_lover,

You wish for so many things, which is normal, but I encourage you to focus on what you already have and postpone pining for what you desire. I recently saw a friend who is bedridden because of a debilitating disease and he is younger than you. He may not last long and he is not thinking about relationships or job or anything. If you can walk and move around be thankful for that. That is a huge blessing that many people do not enjoy. You can have joy within you even if you are alone. Be grateful that you can eat breakfast or even just two meals a day, there are people who don’t. Take a leisurely walk, breathe the fresh air, and clear your mind. When you develop a positive attitude, good things can happen, your mind is alert, you might spot a job opening, which sometimes we do not see when we are anxious or feel down. It might help you do better in interviews, and then perform better when you do get to work. Do not worry about companionship, enjoy what life has to offer for now and many times women are attracted to guys who are positive. So try to put the job and women on the side and cultivate a healthy outlook on being alone and what you have right now.