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[MamaMoonE]

This is my first post so I guess I'll just start. I've been diagnosed with depression for the past 14 years. I've developed anxiety and a binge eating disorder because of it. My partner doesn't support me and I have several young kids that look to me for guidance. I have been spiraling downward into a hole. I dont enjoy anything in my life anymore and I can't get to therapy like I want. I tried online therapy, but it was too expensive. I tried antidepressants when I was younger, but the side effects were so awful that it scared me from ever trying them again. I'm just trying to find somewhere I can talk to people who know what I'm going through.

[lizbeth_v]

Welcome! Glad to see you’re looking for ways to better yourself! I too suffer from anxiety and depression as well as an eating disorder. I’m sorry to hear u don’t get the support you need, we are all here for you. Have you tried any hobbies such as cooking or art? And I’m sorry to hear about your negative experience with medicine. With the pandemic I can imagine it being hard to see a therapist, if you are religious, I recommend talking to a priest or pastor, it always tends to help religious people. If you are not religious, you could talk to someone who deals with the same issues as yourself and find ways together to help (lol you could do that in any situation really). A trusted family member or friend is a great start. Or simply someone on this app that is willing to hear you out and help you cope. I am more than happy to be that person if you need someone! Feel free to message me any time!💕take care and please stay safe during these times!

[lizbeth_v]

Oh I forgot about your eating disorder! It is not bad to exercise and eat healthy as long as you’re eating foods that are nutritious and not overdoing exercise or causing yourself to throw up. That will hurt your help longterm and you have children correct? They need their mother to he healthy. You could try maybe healthy eating habits? Cooking healthy foods and making sure you eat the amount of food that isn’t too much or too many. You could exercise for maybe 15 minutes a day and that in turn will help you maintain a healthy weight and good body figure! There’s plenty of healthy food recipes on YouTube and short and effective exercises that are like 10 minutes long. Being a mother and all I’m sure your schedule is all over the place but you can always incorporate 10 minutes or even less for exercise if that’s something you’re willing to do. It’s also a great way to help your mind distress and distract yourself for a bit. Remember, you don’t have to do the workout perfectly like those girls on YouTube, it would be your first time, it’s okay to take breaks if you need them, they have been doing it for a long time and are used to it!

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Welcome to this site!!! There are some great people on here. I'm sorry for your stressful situation, but don't give up hope that things can get better.❤️

[lizbeth_v]

Drink plenty of water too! Maybe try a few water bottles, 4 or so would be good. Water is good for keeping healthy weight and giving you a very hydrated glow about skin. It’s great for mental health as well!

[Tellmeaboutit]

depression can be devastating. i’ve struggled with it most of my life, too. (way more than 14 years.)

my main advice would be to give the antidepressants another chance. there are many, many different types, and what works for some wont work for others. what worked last year may not work any more. find a doctor you like (you do have a choice) give him or her your input and dollow their advice. you may need to try several different approaches but eventually you will find something that helps. from their you can work on eating habits, exercize, social coping skills, etc and slowly it will all get better.

if your partner truly isnt willing to support you in this life/death crusade, leave them. i know that sounds harsh/scary, but depression and related illnesses are hard enough to deal with under the best circumstances, and family members who arent part of the solution are part of the problem. ( took me 23 years to figure that ine out!)

finally, regarding your children, you cant help anyone else until you help yourself first. not saying to abandon them, but you must make your own mental health your top priority right now, even if that means less attention or sacrafice for the children in the short term. getting yourself healthy will be best for them in the long run.

dont give up on yourself. there is a way out, and you can find it. let us know how we can help

[Gentlespirit]

Take the kids sledding and their excitement and laughter will help uplift you or maybe make playdoh and join them?? Here is the recipe for homemade playdoh. 3 and a half cups flour. 1 cup salt. One package koolaid or a few drops of food coloring and 1 cup of water. Put the ingredients into a bowl and mix together. Store in a plastic container when not in use. The dollar store has shapes and molds for 1 dollar or use different size lids and other items from your home. My heart goes out to you i know what your going through.

[Catsamaze ADAA Volunteer]

Hi MamaMoon. I want to join others in welcoming you to the community. I have found a home here with wonderful people who really understand what depression and anxiety are like. I’m confident that you’ll feel the same way. I want to echo what Tellmeaboutit suggested. There are new antidepressants now that we’re not available the last time you tried going that route. They are absolutely not the magic pill that will cure everything, but they may be worth considering as just one piece of the approach that will help you heal. You would need a doctor for that. As for a therapist, many (certainly not all) offer a sliding scale that would enable you to try that again as well. I’m sorry that you are suffering right now but do know that we are here to help in any way we can.

[FearIsALiar]

Welcome to the group 👋🏼

[Gentlespirit]

Sometimes its hard to not feel overwhelmed. Taking 2 steps forward and then a step back. You and your kids can give each other hugs love and comfort though and their love will help you and them. Memories. How about making a photo album? They will enjoy it as they get older and will appreciate sharing it with other family members too

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Hi MamamoonE welcome to our community i'm sorry to hear about your partner being unsupportive. I hope with time and being on here, you will start to enjoy life a bit more and that providing guidance to your kids will come easier!