Lately I have noticed my phone is a major contribution to my anxiety. Mainly because my conversations and things that bring me down are found in my phone. So I have avoided it during the day and focused on other things like reading a book or watching TV. However, when I go back to check on it I feel anxious because maybe I didn't get the text from the person I was hoping to get it from, or feel sad to see I have no notifications and feel lonely. I get on social media and come out feeling worse than when I grabbed the phone. I avoid it, then have the short term relief, but when I return to the phone, the fear that led to that avoidance worsens. Just like the cycle in the picture. I don't really know what to do. I can't avoid my phone forever.
The cycle of anxiety: Lately I have... - Anxiety and Depre...
The cycle of anxiety
Avoid the phone when you know it's going to increase your anxiety. I have to do that often as well as the TV and people in general that don't respect boundaries and feelings. I let people know why as well so they don't take it personally. I just want them to know sometimes we all need space from everything without being judged for it.
yes! I hate that I use it as my alarm but putting it on airplane mode helps...although its tempting to take it off airplane mode and check my phone.
If just checking it doesn't give you anxiety, then, by all means, check it...But, if it does, turn it all the way off and just enjoy whatever you are doing.
Smart phones are literally designed to distract. It is like a constant pop up ad. You are actually getting a hit of dopamine when you look and there is a message. Not getting a reward for looking is a downer. So then I (at least) subconsciously go look for that “hit”.
If you have an iPhone you can set up sleep mode. It gives you a reminder to wind down and puts the phone in dnd. In order to open it you have to dismiss a special screen. It is really a hard battle though. You are fighting tech design and your own brain.
yes this is exactly me! I just need to stop anticipating possible incoming messages because I am afraid to be disappointed by having none. It's mainly an issue with my friends/boyfriend since I don't see them much in person, I rely on texts to stay connected. that's why it makes me anxious.
Take one day at a time and be kind to yourself. We care. I care too. Define who you are and reinvent yourself. Please do not let your phone or if you have received notifications define you. You are worthy and a nice person. Look in the mirror and ask yourself who am i? What can i do to stay grounded? What helps?