Confused and paralysed

[Mishell11]

I have been thinking not to get into a relationship, but then again I jumped into another one. He is a nice guy, I did think of him, I analyzed him pretty much unlike my other relationships. I know he's been into many causal physical relationships, I know all of it. But he seems genuine around me, I hope he is. But today, I heard something really came to be surprising to me. His friend, shes married and she works with him, I have known her since I have known him and today, he told me they have been making out occasionally, and I was pretty much shocked, and has got me thinking right now. He told me this would never happen again and this was before me. he said sorry and he keeps reassuring me he will never let anything like this happen again. I couldn't say this to my best friend because she would totally criticize and keep me away from this probably and I actually love him. What do I do? I know this happened before me, but will this work? wouldn't there be some sort of sexual tension between them? what if she loves him? he's a charmer, so can't say.

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When you say the words, he's a charmer, I see red flags everywhere here!!!! If you haven't had sex with him yet, it's possible he's just taking some time to lure you in until you do, and then when he's done using you for that purpose, then comes the discard. Is this guy the kind who's very good looking and he knows it???!!!! And he's making out with a woman who's already married and you're friends with her??? This guy has no honor code, he's no knight on a white horse, he's a player. Everything is a game to him. He doesn't know what real love and respect is. It's of course your choice, but I would cut off this relationship immediately.

[MidnightBriarRose]

I want to echo and completely agree with what Googoodollsfan said, as I believe it is great advice and right on the money! This man is not the kind of man you want to involve yourself with in any way, shape or form. If he does not have any more of a moral code than to make out with a married woman, then he is not someone you should expect to have a moral code with you either. And the fact that he has had a lot of sexual relationships, in the past, also shows that he is permiscuios. And that is not a good thing either. My advice to you is get away from him as soon as possible and have nothing more to do with him! You deserve so much better than that!

[Mishell11]

Yes even i think he could be a mistake. Thankyou.