Gift anxiety

[Starfish_]

This is going to sound goofy but bear with me please. Giving/recieving gifts gives me anxiety outside of my immediate family. I feel guilty about people spending money on me and worry my gift won't be good enough. Specifically in cases like today, my boyfriend gave me a Christmas gift and it was really cool, I love it! However now I'm anxious that my gift to him will seem lame or dumb in comparison. Im sure he will like it, but I dont want it to seem cheap or just not enough. Plus I know he spent a lot more money. I mean he is working full time, it is his money to spend how he sees fit, and I'm still in school, but I feel bad that I cant return the gesture in the same way.

Im sure he won't actually care but I want to say something but he just got some bad news so now does not seem like the time :/ and I now feel bad I cant do more for him right now but its a "wait and see" situation

Ahhhhhh sorry just needed to get it out somewhere

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Hello

Over the years I have had expensive gifts given me and not so expensive gifts and the one's that have always meant the most are the least expensive gifts as they have always been the one's I know people have put a lot of thought into We have a saying

It is the thought that counts

Once someone gave me a home made pot of jam , with a nice ribbon around it they had been talking to me and telling me about the jam they made and I had said how lovely it sounded and then they turned up and gave me one and I felt so special they had remembered and took the time to bring one for me

I am sure you put thought into your gifts and anyone that does not appreciate that well they are not worth a gift and I bet whatever you have got your BF he will love because he loves you

Please try and break this habit of worrying and always remember it is the thought that counts x

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I hear what you're saying. Gift giving can be tricky. I sometimes feel guilty if someone gave me something really nice and rather expensive and I'm trying to watch my money so my gift maybe isn't as nice. But I think when it comes down to it, someone who's genuine and not petty isn't going to make any sarcastic or rude remark about it and will accept anything graciously. Sometimes the nicest gifts aren't anything anyone spent money on, like someone drawing or painting something for you or writing a nice poem about you. That comes from the heart.❤️

[elaine2447]

Not goofy at all, probably me more goofy, a friend and then a neighbour have recently given me beautiful plant displays and after they had gone I went into panic about overwatering, underwatering and killing them off. Crazy know. I spend a lot on gifts so that part doesnt worry me about what I am given as long as it is not something awful that I will have to display for ever more in case they come in the house.

[texasbonnet]

I don't get into the Christmas spirit unless I can gift someone. I don't spend a great deal of money on gifts as I don't have it to spend. I kind of consider giving gifts as a gift to myself because I now have the spirit of Christmas and can enjoy it. I too worry the gift isn't worth giving. But if the recipient doesn't like it, I think that is about them. To me the gift should convey the idea that I took some out of a busy life or took time to think about them. The gifts that I have always enjoyed are the ones that say the giver knows me and selected a gift that spoke to me.

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I'm sure he won't mind what you give him. It's the thought that counts.