Anxiety is back

[Tillymay]

Hello everyone. It’s been along time since I’ve been on here but to cut a long story short,anxiety is back in my life I’ve been having panic attacks where I can’t get my breath,I can’t sleep or even think straight.I feel very lonely as I find the only people that understand is them that are going through it or have been through it.I know this is going to be a long journey again.

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Is it possible what ever helped you before could be of help now?

[Tillymay in reply to Hidden]

Thanks Robbie this site did help there are lots of nice people which helped me through some dark moments in life.But this time it feels worse.I can’t get through to the doctor surgery because of this Covid no one seems to answer the phone,and I just don’t know what to do.

[Hidden in reply to Tillymay]

Though I don't know where you live, in my area (Western New York) we have walk in Urgent Care sites. I've utilized them more than a few times when I couldn't get through to my Dr. Is this an option for you?

[Tillymay in reply to Hidden]

Unfortunately not I live in the uk and I don’t really think there is anything like that here.Ive suffered anxiety most of my life but I think it get worse with age.you think more!but I try not to.I hope your on the road to getting and feeling better.Also thank you for your good advice

[Hidden in reply to Tillymay]

You are very kind. I wish I had some type of answer for you. This site truly does help!

[Tillymay in reply to Hidden]

Thank you Robbie,It’s nice that there are people like you here that helps me just being able to talk sometimes x

[babybird722 in reply to Tillymay]

I just recently had a crisis here in the US and I found a doctor who saw me virtually. The UK has telecare. Be kind to yourself and find a doctor who can help you. You deserve peace.

[Tillymay in reply to babybird722]

Thank you babybird I love the name by the way.Im going to try a ring my doctor again next week.I can’t carry on like this I’m ageing fast and also can’t concentrate.I hate talking on the phone but needs must.If I can help you in anyway just say I’m a good listener and I never judge people.

[babybird722 in reply to Tillymay]

I just found this space yesterday and it is helping me tremendously to respond to other people because now I do not feel so alone. I am blessed in so many ways. I have family and friends who love me, but they don't understand how to help me when I can not control my anxiety. I try to bury my feelings so that I do not upset them, but lately I feel that my skin is crawling and it is so hard to contain. Reading that other people are having the same struggles is almost healing.

If the world were kinder, I wouldn't have PTSD. If there were not so many bullies in the world, the quality of my life would be better. But we have to play the cards we are dealt. I am trying to learn to play my cards better.

[Tillymay in reply to babybird722]

What a lovely reply I do think the same as you we are all dealt cards in life but we just need to know how to play them.And yes your not alone I know you have your friends and family but you also have people like me who is going through a bumpy road in life like you.your right when it comes to people they can be very spiteful and bitter and also judge people.we don’t need people like that in this world life is hard enough.x

[Frazzledcat]

In the same place. Stopping all the thinking is my biggest goal as what leads to full panic. Don’t think it’s going to stay around, try to just think about why you are panicking now if you can’t relax. I will read, do small tasks or anything to distract my thinking. Is there anything you can do that makes you comfortable and calm like in a fluffy blanket, have some tea or anything that makes you feel good to start. If l can just lower my anxiety level a bit the full blown panic stops.

[Tillymay in reply to Frazzledcat]

Thank you frazzlecat it’s nice to know I’m not on my own.I like reading but I just can’t concentrate I finally get to sleep and then wake to feeling sick to my stomach I reach and reach but nothing comes up.But I’m not eating much at the moment.thank you so much for your post it does help to know people are here.

[Usaazrn]

I am sorry you are going through this right now with having anxiety and panic attacks. These are such hard times and the unpredictability is making my anxiety awful. Life has enough stressor and throwing in the pandemic makes it so much worse. I have a lot of guilt about doing things since it can jeopardize mine and my families health. I am starting to get social anxiety, OCD, agoraphobia, insomnia, and depression on top of my high anxiety. I also feel like no one else around me knows how I am feeling or the challenges I am facing with my mental health.

[Tillymay in reply to Usaazrn]

Bless you USaazrn I know how your feeling it’s so hard and yes I feel guilty to on my family.But we can’t help this it’s an illness that some people don’t understand.We will just have to be here for each other thank you for your reply and like I say we will be here for each other

[Xmmznz]

Same. I was doing so good before covid and then it all started again.

[Tillymay in reply to Xmmznz]

Yes this Covid has a lot to answer for! As people with anxiety and depression really do need to speak to people face to face I hate talking on the phone and also I think people will listen to my conversations.

[Xmmznz in reply to Tillymay]

Yess i also hate talking on the phone! What helped me was going out to school and seeing my friends but now i can't even do that:(, has theraphy helped you in the past?

[Tillymay in reply to Xmmznz]

I wish I could have therapy but I don’t know how to go about it.also I don’t know if there is any therapy near me.Have you any friends you can turn to so you can talk about how u feel?

[Xmmznz in reply to Tillymay]

The thing is that theraphy is also expensive and i mean yeah my best friend always listens to me but i don't really feel like talking about it to him.I am sure that we both will be fine, we've been through this before

[Tillymay in reply to Xmmznz]

Yes I thought I would have to pay for therapy.well at least you have got a friend to turn to if you wanted to.But I know what your saying when you say it’s hard to talk to someone about it.Do you know why you get anxiety? If you don’t mind me asking?

[Xmmznz in reply to Tillymay]

Mostly heatlh anxiety, how about you?

[Tillymay in reply to Xmmznz]

The list goes on and on I think to much about the future I worry about my two children.i worry about health.lots of different things then it all builds up and I feel like my head will explode.Do you think sometimes you have things wrong with you.I do all the time and I just don’t know why I even look my dreams up to see what they mean.and if it gives me something negative I think bad things will happen it’s crazy feeling this way.im so pleased there is people to talk to x

[Xmmznz in reply to Tillymay]

I get it, anxiety is so horrible it can make you feel like you're loosing it, but we also need to rembember that it's just our brain trying to make us believe negative things. I am also very pleased with this site!

[Tillymay in reply to Xmmznz]

Your right it is our brain playing games and I need to keep telling myself this and also we both should remember we’re not the only ones like this.Its nice to know I’m not on my own.thanks xmmznz

[FearIsALiar]

Hey my anxiety started back in July! You definitely aren’t alone.

Do you know what caused it to come back??

[FearIsALiar in reply to FearIsALiar]

You got through your anxiety last time so you definitely can get through it again 💗

[Tillymay in reply to FearIsALiar]

Thank you fearisaliar it’s lots of different things that set it off again I think to much into the future and I’m not a very strong person.I also don’t have any friends to turn to I come from a big family that I was use to being around but when my mum died all that died with it.we were left with no one I have children but I worry about them growing up and doing wrong in life not that they will but I just worry about it.I always worry what people think and the list just goes on and on.I think Covid has mad matters worse as you can’t get hold of a doctor or see any one.But I’m pleased I’m not alone how are you doing now?

[FearIsALiar in reply to Tillymay]

Aw..I’m sorry ☹️ sounds like a lot but I know you will get through it! I’m sorry to hear about your mom. When did she pass?

Also I am taking it day by day.

[Tillymay in reply to FearIsALiar]

My mum passed away when I was 16 so many years ago so I’ve done most things without my mum at my side. like having my baby’s So that hasn’t helped.Do you know what started your anxiety off? if u don’t want to say I understand.But I’m pleased your taking steps to get better.

[FearIsALiar in reply to Tillymay]

A concussion from soccer started mine

[Tillymay in reply to FearIsALiar]

Bless you it’s things I wouldn’t think of that can trigger anxiety.Its such a horrible illness x

[FearIsALiar in reply to Tillymay]

I know right! My moms anxiety started from her passing out! Which is so strange how that started her whole anxiety.

Mine started from getting hit in the head at soccer and then I thought it was a concussion but I felt my brain shake when I fell down and it freaked me out so much! Also everyone was saying I got hit pretty hard and one guy even said “I’m surprised that didn’t kill you!” ...which didn’t help but turns out I didn’t have a concussion after getting a brain scan everything was normal.

[Tillymay in reply to FearIsALiar]

I’m so pleased your brain scan was good.So your mum suffers anxiety as well sometimes I think this illness is a bit genetic as when my mum was alive she use to have anxiety and depression at different times of her life.I hope your mum is doing ok as well x

[FearIsALiar in reply to Tillymay]

I’m glad it was too. But my head always felt weird so I was convinced something was wrong..sometimes I still feel that way! I’ll send you a message

[babybird722 in reply to FearIsALiar]

My therapist said that working remotely triggered my anxiety because all my safe spaces were invaded. Pre-Covid, I could escape and run home. When we began to work remotely, my coworkers invited themselves in my house when they wanted, for as long as they wanted. They called and texted me all day and night. My boss treated me as if I were her friend and her slave. I do not like her enough to be either one, so it led to a huge crisis for me. When I could escape her, I could tolerate her because I loved my job. When she moved in my house through ZOOM, it was like living with a batterer. I had no choice but to end the relationship and quit my job. I worry about what I am going to do with my time, but that is better than worrying about emotional abuse.

In the past, I would walk by the lake, go to the museum, go to a jazz club, or just go out to dinner with a friend and regain my composure. But all my strategies for managing my PTSD went away with COVID.

We need to be kind to ourselves. We are in the middle of a pandemic and we are doing the best we can do under the circumstances.

[Tillymay in reply to babybird722]

Bless you it must have been hard for someone to invade your space especially as it must have felt you couldn’t get away.I think you did the right thing by packing it in.you will find something else but it’s hard at the moment with this pandemic going on but remember there are nice people in the world that won’t judge you or be horrible to you.you will find yourself again and all this will make you a stronger person.your health is more important than a job I’m always here x

[Staystrong2424]

This is a hard time and harder for people with anxiety. Hopefully you can talk to someone to help you through this. I feel that talking it through with a therapist or a friend helps me.

[Tillymay in reply to Staystrong2424]

Bless you staystrong I hoping to get in touch with my gp if they ever answer the phone.I think your right it’s very hard for people with depression or anxiety with all what’s going on in the world I try not to listen to the news anymore as that even makes me feel worse.I haven’t really got a friend I can talk to about my anxiety I’m a loner and only see other mums at the school run and that’s just a 5 min conversation.thank you for your reply and if I can be there for you as well just say x

[Staystrong2424 in reply to Tillymay]

Thank you. If you ever need to talk to someone, I’m here for you too. I sometimes feel so anxious and stressed but I don’t want to constantly bother anyone with my problems and I felt that I was being so negative. I was feeling so alone. Then, I found this site. Sometimes just writing on this site makes me feel better. I just need to get out my anger sometimes. If you need to just vent or talk about your feelings, we are here for you.

[Tillymay in reply to Staystrong2424]

I’m always here for you we can be negative together.i know what you mean about talking to others about things it’s hard because they don’t understand and you don’t want them to think of not this again.This is a good site I’ve only just come back on here I’ve been full of anxiety for a while and forgot about this place I’ve suffered anxiety on and off for many years.How about you? Or as this all just started for you? If you don’t mind me asking? Remember I will always be here for you!

[Staystrong2424 in reply to Tillymay]

Thank you so much. It’s so comforting to know that there are people out there who understand. Yes. I do have anxiety but it’s mainly brought on by stress from when things are just not going well at home with my family. I’m just sad a lot and feel lost. My daughter has bad anxiety and it’s upsetting to see, so I completely understand what you are going through. I hope you are feeling better soon. I’m hear for you if you need to talk.

[Tillymay in reply to Staystrong2424]

Bless you we can be here for each other,I know what you mean about feeling sad it’s horrible.Also to see your daughter having anxiety is awful because you know how it feels.Anything upsets me I hate thinking people judge people or are being horrible to people the world sometimes can be a spiteful place.But we have to remember their are nice people out there to take care and I’m here if you need me.x

[Hidden]

Hello Tillymay, welcome back it has been two years since your last visit.Sorry your Anxiety has returned are there any reasons that has brought this on ??

You could try Relaxation Technique Mindfulness, books purchased on Amazon for $10;00. I also find hobbies can have a positive effect when we have anxiety or Diversions you like to take part in Sport, Walks and for some even gardening.

Have you talked to your Doctor yet, there are pathways that can help you control your Anxiety, so make that appointment. In the UK we need to go through a telephone assessment before a eye to eye appointment so you may need to allow time before an appointment.

BOB

[Tillymay in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for the welcome back your the only name I remember on here.Lots of new people now and the old ones seem to have left.How are you? It’s nice your still here.Well I didn’t think I would be back on here again but my anxiety seems to have come back.I keep worrying over everything.My children getting older and being independent them going out makes me worry.I know we all have to have a life To live but I just can’t help it.Also I worry about my dads health.the future and anything and everything my head feels like it’s going to explode.Ive been trying to contact my doc but I sit on the phone for about half an hour then I just give up.Everyone has been complaining because they haven’t been answering the phone.ive tried reading but I just can’t concentrate.Its lovey to hear from you bob

[Hidden]

Hello Tillymay Welcome Back !!

Yes still here it is nice to be able to chat to members old and new. Old members pop in and out on various sites and are still very valuable. I am getting older and I do not spread myself as broadly as before.

I understand how much of a problem you must be having regards seeing your Doctor. Generally at my practice I need to phone the surgery and explain what I am phoning for, initially we get a telephone call from the Doctor, that can take two weeks, then if they want to see me they give me a further appointment generally after a further call to meet Eye to Eye. If you need to make a hospital appointment, they take your name and make a telephone appointment to talk to a Clinic, they then call you back several weeks later and do an assessment over the phone, I have a telephone call coming through on the 29/12. then they will arrange tests etc weeks later I suppose.. I have another Doctors appointment mid January. A real problem

Your Doctor hopefully may be able to arrange an CBT Course although I gather your worries and fears are related to day to day concerns associated with family. Most families go through the same thing as you mention above especially if children get older and are becoming more independent. As we get older Your Parents become older as well and need to be watched over.

Consider writing down each worry and fear itemise each concern in that group. Then take another concern for example your Father and write those concerns down in small sections Take each small problem and try to address it as straight forward as possible then move down to the next small bite, If you get stuck move onto another group of a problem and split that on up into little bites follow each small bite and correct it , then move on to the next small bite if you get stuck move on once more to the next main problem/bite untill all your concerns are addressed.

Have you tried Relaxation Technique Mindfulness you can purchase books on Amazon for about £8;00. This will help you calm your Anxiety.

Try Slow deep breathing exercises that should also help you relax

BOB

[Tillymay]

Thank you bob for your advice.You always we’re full of good advice it’s nice people still pop back in hu,I’ve been trying to make an appointment but no one seems to answer the phone.Also at the moment our surgery isn’t doing face to face unless they really have to,That another worry as I don’t want them to just put me on medication without seeing me.I also suffer high blood pressure so I have to be very careful.Thats a great idea to write things down as when I have to explain myself my mind goes blank,I do hope your doing well? How have you been? X