Random thought

[CalicoPurpl90]

I'm not sure why I am even posting or thinking about this, but it came to mind so here goes. More than a year ago I went on a few dates with a guy I met online. I was attracted to him and he was to me and on the second date we slept together. Kind of fast, I know, but we had both talked about it prior and were interested in sleeping together. Anyways, afterwards, he started to question my sexual performance and seemed very surprised that I was not more experienced and indicated that he was not upset but was just wondering. I felt taken aback by his inquiry and inside I was thinking: "Dude, I'm still just getting to know you, this was only our second date. Even though we both agreed to do this I am obviously going to still seem nervous wtf." I didn't verbalize any of this to him obviously, but I'm just wondering what this was coming from and all about with him. Was the guy just subtly being a jerk or what? (BTW: We only had three dates. After that he for whatever reason decided to ghost me and stop talking altogether. Just wondering if I might experience something like this in a future relationship or dating, I'm hoping not).

[Sleeplessme]

That happens both ways, believe me! Online dating doesn't help, too much build up before chemistry has its chance creating a false image of people. But even when it's not online, women can do the same. It's also not nessesarily the sex. I've had women disappear after great dates where they fell overthemselves to compliment me. Dating is horrible, but I guess we have to keep trying or we'll be on our own forever!

[CalicoPurpl90 in reply to Sleeplessme]

I know what you mean. I tried out a few dating apps awhile back. I was on one app for a little while, but after a slew of bad dates and meeting the wrong people I decided to call it quits with online dating. At least for now. I would much rather meet someone organically in person. I wish it wasn't so hard to meet someone sometimes, but you just have to keep trying I guess.

[Sleeplessme in reply to CalicoPurpl90]

But where do you meet people when the government seem so set on destroying our social lives? At least in the UK where pubs are taxed so highly they can't operate. Not to mention the covid rules!

[CalicoPurpl90 in reply to Sleeplessme]

I hear you. The current covid rules definitely make things a little harder. Trying to branch out by socializing with the people you work with can sometimes be a good start. I have social anxiety and I am a bit introverted myself, but I try and socialize with the people around me when I can.