When there is no enemy proverb-

[Starrlight]

When there is no enemy within,

The enemy outside

Can do you no harm

- African Proverb

[darktodawn]

Love it ! Hope your well🙂

[Starrlight in reply to darktodawn]

I’m doing great my friend! How are you? Are you getting a bunch of snow again yet? I’m so happy to ‘read’ you!!!

[All_alone]

Very pretty picture

[Starrlight in reply to All_alone]

Thanks All_alone 😊

[Dolphin14]

Star That's a beautiful picture.

The proverb is very true. When we find inner peace we have more control over our lives.

[Starrlight in reply to Dolphin14]

Yes! Someone started to piss me off today but I came across this proverb and I was able to let it go and have peace within myself. Hope you are well Dolphin!

[Dolphin14 in reply to Starrlight]

I'm great Star, ty for asking.I have finally reached a point of inner peace. I feel calmer now. It's a nice way to live

[Starrlight in reply to Dolphin14]

Awesome! What do you think are the main reason(s)

[Dolphin14 in reply to Starrlight]

Meditation, lots of meditation

[Hidden]

Beautiful and wise words.

A few years ago, when I started therapy for the first time, I learned that a lot of my anxiety and unhappiness were rooted in the feelings and perceptions I had of myself. Once I unpacked those negative thoughts, I felt as if a weight had lifted 😊

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

I am also slowly working on ditching negative assumptions. Thanks for sharing that!!!

[Hidden in reply to Starrlight]

Woohoo! Positive Thinking Twinsies!

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

❤️

[c-mac in reply to Hidden]

Yeah, that was good for me, too. I learned to think of them as negative audio recordings ("tapes" for us older readers) that my inner voice would play, saying I'm dumb or weak or something. It seems unlikely once you realize how pervasive they are, but by loving yourself you can make them fade away.

[Starrlight in reply to c-mac]

Yeah? By loving yourself hmmm I’m curious as I can’t even tell if I love myself or not but at least I can pick out things I did for myself today that shows love like eating healthy, to take a med when suffering... affirmations I bet help eventually... I’ve been using a few when I look in the mirror. I have a ways to go but at least I’m going... are you on a good path right now? CJasmin, how did you do it? Make them fade away?

[c-mac in reply to Starrlight]

I consciously give myself a little mental hug each time I realize I'm doing it, and tell myself, "that's all well and good, but for now I'm not going to listen to those negative thoughts, and I'll think well of myself instead." And sometimes it's an actual hug.

[Starrlight in reply to c-mac]

I’ve done that too , hug myself and I rather like it. I need to do more self talk. I’m realizing the mean voices in my mind can leave now.

[c-mac in reply to Starrlight]

Yes, they can. I don’t know, maybe I’ve just made them so they have to be more subtle, but it’s a big difference from when I was young. I think I internalized all the traumatic things people were saying in my family, kind of like I was practicing them so they wouldn’t shock and hurt me so much.

I grew up in the South around a lot of racism, too, and once in a while this horrible racist comment will float into my mind — I think it’s the same thing, I was just traumatized by that language until my mind generates it on its own.

[Starrlight in reply to c-mac]

((((((((((((((((Biggest hug)))))))))))))))))) yes I’m so sorry for your trauma. And the racism god that is just disgusting isn't it? I had (have) highly critical parents who ‘could do no wrong’. It sucks all the negative I have to try so hard to let go of. Plus even though I know my brother acted and was not my action, I feel guilt as if him killing himself was my fault. Working on it.

[c-mac in reply to Starrlight]

Oh, man, I'm sorry that happened. That's a whole lot to let go. Lots of hugs every time you go down that path. "Maybe thinking about this a lot is something I will eventually need to do, but right now ((hug)) I'm going to direct myself to think of something more comforting."

[bluestars725]

Love this. It is true.

[Starrlight in reply to bluestars725]

❤️

[SmilesLots]

Nice share Starrlight

[Starrlight in reply to SmilesLots]

❤️