No help when in need!

Why does it happen that I’m always there for everyone and there is no one when I’m in need?

[Giggles007]

I can 100% relate to this. And it sucks! You have to learn to be your own best friend.

[Hidden in reply to Giggles007]

That’s when these people try and come back.

[Giggles007 in reply to Hidden]

And when that happens don’t rush in. Take a step back and think about what advice you would give to friend in your shoes. Hence, learning to be your best friend. A good line you can use is “ Yes, that sounds like a nice idea but let me check my schedule and get back to you.” It sets a boundary without obligation and then you can think it over and decide if you want to or not. Don’t shame yourself for saying no. Do what makes your soul feel good. Your purpose is to heal and feed your soul. Not use negativity to deprive it of happiness. Hope this helps.

[Hidden]

Ta da, I have arrived!!! ☺ How are you???

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I’m good. How are you doing?

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I'm having some insomnia, I will be ok. Hope you're all right. People here do care, but we're not professionals and we don't have all the answers.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Hope you fight it out soon.

Yes I feel the care I am getting here. I’m already overwhelmed.

[HeartoftheTriforce]

I also think it's important to ask for help, and from the right people

[Hidden in reply to HeartoftheTriforce]

Absolutely!

[Hidden]

I can relate to this so much...

[Hidden]

Yep..unfortunately,thats the world we live in .Ive noticed that alot also,but its a good way to see who ur true friends r.

Personally,with my health as it is n life how it is,i dont waste my time on others who i cannot have a equal friendship with.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Sometimes our emotions are so attached that we end up doing the same thing again and again but yeah things get better once you are determined!

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I guess its about knowing what u want in life n knowing what u dont want in ur life for ultimate happiness n not disappointment.

[aduirne]

I have gone through that and I had to learn to set boundaries with the people who used me for support and didn't return it. A friend from high school (class of 88 so it has been a long time) was like that with her drinking. She ditched me for parties all the time. We were in and out of touch over the years as adults and she pulled the same thing a few years ago. She showed up newly sober last year wanting me to help her set up a dating profile. She was upset when I finally said NO.

[Hidden in reply to aduirne]

Like really long time, you did the right thing

[aduirne in reply to Hidden]

It was difficult but as I have gotten older, I have also gotten out of the rescue/fixer business. It isn't my job to fix everyone. I need to take care of my own issues.

[Hidden]

I'm sorry you feel that way and I can relate. I can rattle on about how and why that is for me and see if you can also relate. However I think it'd be more worth your while if I should just say if you want to talk or need to talk about anything that is on your mind that is bothering you, feel free to direct message me. I think what maybe weighing on your mind that maybe causing you distress will ease if you'd like to have a good listener. Hence my offer, and I get on here often enough to maybe even direct live chat. Cheers man, hope this is a better day for you.

[Danielle2419]

I have learnt to accept that not everyone understands what you are going through , I suffer with many illnesses that impact my mood, that being said I have come to terms with everyone not understanding.

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You have a really deep point. Thanks.

[SirGrits]

@Manishbhati try to curb your expectations of these people. Especially the ones you help the most. Remember, logically, that these folks are the ones with the least to offer anyways.

It's just hard to let stuff go, right. But if we go through life only helping those that can help back, what have we really proven? Even the worst narc or sociopath or whatever returns favors. So try to let it go when your good will doesn't boomerang.

Prayers bro.