what's going on?? please help

[langedechu]

this is a really hard post for me to make. but it's been bothering me a lot lately and I want to know what everyone thinks. so, recently I got in trouble with some friends (I don't want to explain what happened, but no violence was committed) and now the police are in an active investigation. one friend I was really really close to and we were just like, THERE for each other. anyways maybe a month after it happened I told my mom that it was bothering me that he was being investigated for doing practically nothing wrong, and since he has some mental issues it scared me, thinking what he would do to himself if he found out that he was in deep trouble. after it happened of course I'm not allowed to see him or talk to him... anyways for once she actually listened to what i said and called the police to request them to stop investigating just him because he was important to me (i didn't ask for her to do that). they said they would try their best to honor her request and we haven't heard back since. but the thing that is confusing me is that I'm glad that they're taking into consideration my mother's request, but I'm conflicted - i don't know if i would rather have him know and have a reason that I haven't been communicating with him or seeing him rather than him not knowing about the investigation and just thinking i plain left him in the dust. even though the police might let him go I'm still not going to be able to see him again, so is trying even worth it? it's all so confusing and i don't really understand if it's better off him knowing or not because i don't want to be the girl who he could trust and then abandoned him for no reason. recently also he updated one of his profiles and he seems pretty fine without me, so why am I worrying about someone who probably doesn't give a shit if I go missing?

[Help_Me_Please]

My initial thought is that it may be best to leave things alone and not go into any details. However I understand that seems hard to do. On the other hand you don’t want to bring up and go into all of the details about the investigation.

Is there a way you can make contact and then while speaking judge the merits of going into more details?

[langedechu in reply to Help_Me_Please]

there is no way to be able to communicate with him currently unless I walked to his house or something...

[Help_Me_Please in reply to langedechu]

What is the downside to walking to his house? Sounded as if it was best (in terms of the investigation and what happened) not to have interaction.

[langedechu in reply to Help_Me_Please]

there is no downside really except for him maybe shutting me out when I get there. and my parents definitely wont let me anyways.

[Daesin]

I don't know what kind of mischief y'all got into, but it sounds like your mama got you away from a group that was making some very poor choices. Good for her.

However I don't think you have your brain wrapped around this very well. Uhm, unless your mother is a magistrate or something very high up the food chain just because she calls the cops and says don't investigate Johnny down the block cops don't listen to people and just stop their investigations like that.

It sounds like you have a very big heart honey and you want to help. but it sounds like you need to keep your nose clean and keep yourself on the straight & narrow. Mom pulled you out of the bad situation before you got burned up. I hope you can appreciate what she did. You should find better friends who aren't apt to be investigated by the police.

Good luck sweetheart. I know this is a hard time I wish you the best

[langedechu in reply to Daesin]

i really appreciate that. thank you so much

[Hidden]

I think it's best to leave things die down a bit. If you feel comfortable you could just chit chat. Make sure that other people there you prob should steer away from. Who knows maybe he feels the same about you.

[langedechu in reply to Hidden]

yeah, maybe i'm just in a "miss what we used to have" instead of "miss the person" kind of situation