Why do I feel so lonely all the time?

[RoughLife]

Why do I feel so lonely all the time? I can't shake the feeling anymore. I lay in bed and cry every night. Only way I get any sleep is to take melatonin to get 2-3 hours of sleep. I talk to family and friends every day, but feel empty and alone. I know alot if people have worse issues than me and I feel like a whiny little bit**. I have a roof over my head and food in my belly but just so unhappy and alone. I honestly don't think I have ever had happiness...

[hurtingheart1]

I’m soo sorry to hear you’re feeling this!!!😢💞don’t be so hard on yourself though I think it’s more than normal you feel that during this time especially with this terrible virus situation!!😱😱& pleae don’t call yourself any names especially not derogatory 1’s!!! No call yourself strong and that you’re here you’re alive in 2020!!! Right?? During crazy times!!! Sounds like you’re feeling things a lot of others are feeling and it’s good you’re sharing and posting here!!

[RoughLife in reply to hurtingheart1]

Sad thing is that I have felt like this my whole life...never had anyone to turn to growing up...now as an adult I completely shut down and isolate myself...when I try to actually talk (with my voice) to anyone about what I am feeling I go into an anxiety attack.

[hurtingheart1 in reply to RoughLife]

I’m so sorry to hear about that I’ve had times like that as well!! I haven’t been on here in a few days so just now reading this!! I really feel for you and you’re definitely not alone !! 💐🌸🌼🌷🌻(((((((hugs))))))) to you!!! How are you doing?? Hope you will keep posting here!!

[Hornetguy]

I understand how you feel, believe me. Don't forget that the loneliness you feel is extremely common, especially today in the midst of the social media craze. I know that it seems useless to point out that it's so common, but I say that to assure you that in that way you are NOT alone! Even better, your chances of finding a friend in the same boat are quite high. Make sure not to isolate yourself - many people do, feeling like they are not "likeable" or that people wouldn't want to be with you. Not only is that negative thinking but it's unrealistic. I'm sure that there are many, many things about you that would make for a good friend. Don't sell yourself short! It's easy to do, especially with past failure experiences.

Don't give up. Just because you haven't found someone you can confide in yet, doesn't mean they don't exist. Also, don't give up the "good" while waiting for the "best." Not saying it's not ok to be picky. That's great. But- we're just not all perfect, we all have some defects.

A big caveat - it's better to be lonely than be with someone who is mistreating you! ALWAYS better to be by yourself, than to ever let someone take advantage of you in any way.

It's all about boundaries, right? Safe now, friends later.

Just some thoughts I had as I have struggled through the years being alone for long stretches. It can be tough... you WILL be fine if you don't give up!