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[swagryn]

hii! i’d like to introduce myself! my name is cam and i recently have decided to try and reach out into the world again! i went through some tough situations and have lost my footing, would love to chat with anyone anytime about anything! i would love to make new friends and be an ear of support to someone who needs it! i sure do, haha. well message me or comment, i’m not really sure how all this works but i would love some guidance to anyone looking to help someone out!

[Olive18]

Hi, i just reached out myself and it has been truly amazing! So many people have given such great advice and they genuinely care. This is a wonderful site

[JerseySox24]

Hi Cam,

I relate to what you said about losing your footing and wanting to "reach out." I personally believe that when we do lose our footing, sometimes this is the best way to connect with others. As I just finished writing in my bio, I don't like the concept that people will sometimes say about how you can only help others when you can help yourself. Sometimes I think we need to feel that longing to connect in order to provide that for others. I'm a school counselor working towards my mental health license, but I struggle a lot with my own personal relationships and romantic relationships. It drew me here because I not only wanted to help others, but I wanted a reminder that there are those out there who are struggling. I am a 32/m just for your comfort I would be interested in hearing what's going on.

[swagryn in reply to JerseySox24]

thank you for such a heartfelt response! yes i totally agree. without a true connection many situations and relationships struggle and sometimes even good connections can get muddled in communication... i am currently trying to get myself out of an emotionally abusive relationship and am currently at my wits end with all the responsibilities i’ve been left with. i’m probably whining about stupid things though, and i don’t want to over-trouble you

[Agora1 in reply to swagryn]

swagryn, I am sorry to hear what you are going through. Know that you are not

whining, this is not a trivial issue. Emotional abuse is just as harmful and hurtful

as physical. It needs to be addressed by a professional. xx

[swagryn in reply to Agora1]

thank you for the advice! i am seeking out professional help, but unfortunately my insurance has been no use. i'm in the process of securing finances for therapy out-of-pocket. it's a little slow rolling but eventually i'll hopefully be able to sort out the resources soon if everything goes perfectly

[Sleeplessme in reply to swagryn]

Just remember that so many of us have been in situations we never thought we'd recover from, but have. Most material problems will come and go, as long as you look after your mental health the rest will follow. And there is an abundance of people here that will help you with that 😁 xx

[swagryn in reply to Sleeplessme]

last night i got the push i needed to stop looking back! thank you for the encouragement. its just really scary to move forward without having any where to really look or start

[Sleeplessme in reply to swagryn]

Good for you! I'm presuming you're in America and I'm not familiar with the American system. I know there are systems in place to help people in your position here, so I hope there are there as well. Do you have friends or family who can help? The worst thing that could happen is to think you've made a mistake an need to go back. Just keep remembering that you're worth more than to be abused xx

[swagryn in reply to Sleeplessme]

unfortunately yes i am in america, and also equally unfortunate, my abuser turned my support system against me to make me more dependent on them

[Sleeplessme in reply to swagryn]

Well I hope there's someone there to help you!

[swagryn in reply to Sleeplessme]

i’m trying to be that someone for myself right now and hopefully she’ll be enough

[Sleeplessme in reply to swagryn]

Good luck, and don't forget there are people here who care and will help when they can!

[swagryn in reply to Sleeplessme]

thank you so much for your encouragement i’ll take that to heart and also wanted to say that i’m here to help as well!!

[Sleeplessme in reply to swagryn]

My pleasure and thank you, it's good to know I can be helpful as well as needing it myself. Just don't go disappearing! X

[swagryn in reply to Sleeplessme]

honestly just wanted to say, its even more helpful than you realize... disappearing is definitely been on my mind and its nice to hear someone ask me not to

[Sleeplessme in reply to swagryn]

Just keep us updated x

[Sleeplessme in reply to swagryn]

Wasn't going to say this bit but I will... Please do get out of that abusive relationship. Screw the responsibilities, you're worth far more than to be abused by anyone. That's the most important thing to know.

[FearIsALiar]

Welcome to the group !!!

[Agora1]

Hi Cam, take our hand, we've got you. Welcome to a safe site with amazing people

to meet and support you. xx

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Welcome Cam!💕