Too much going on.

[vballen]

Hi, I'm new to this site but I'm just not happy with how my life is turning out to be. I have really strict parents that get mad at me for everything I do. I feel like I can't be myself and I'm just constantly lying to them about everything. I haven't been very happy or motivated to do anything. What can I do? I'm lost.

[LiveandLetLive42]

How old are you? Dealing with parents growing up can be tough. And I'm sure they do what they do out of love, but it's also hard on you too. Maybe you can talk to them about how you are feeling. Let them know you are unhappy. And you want a healthy relationship with them. It might be a good thing to get a therapist too!

[vballen in reply to LiveandLetLive42]

Hey. I'm 17 and they treat me like I'm 14. Trust me I have tried to talk to them but they don't listen. I would be happy to see a therapist but my parents would never get me one and they cost a lot of money.

[LiveandLetLive42 in reply to vballen]

You're at a tough age. Believe me. When I was 17, my parents and I didn't get along and they definitely did not understand mental illness. But, as I got older, we started talking more and I opened up more about my depression and we started getting along. It really is just a hard time at your age. That's why discovering who you're real friends are is important. I'm sorry you're going through this...when the time is right you'll get a therapist because that is extremely important too.

[langedechu]

hey, i'm around your age and we're going through the same thing. i would suggest trying to talk to your parents about what you are feeling. if they don't listen or accept your opinion (like mine do a lot), I can't really help you there, because you can't just like get rid of your parents, you know? but if you ever want to vent or talk to someone who can understand feel free to make a post or dm me and we can work it out. welcome to this great community. sending love x

[vballen in reply to langedechu]

aww hey! and yea lol trust me I've tried but there's really nothing I can do. I just isolate myself from them most of the time. But hey likewise! since we are going through the same thing again you can also talk to me and we can help each other out.

[langedechu in reply to vballen]

sorry to hear that, sometimes parents just don't understand, you know? and we need time alone. i made a huge rant post about my parents earlier and you should read it bc I need someone's opinion on what's going on. -hugs

[vballen in reply to langedechu]

Okay, I'm going to check out your post right nowww!!

[langedechu in reply to vballen]

okay also you are BEAUTIFUL. like what the heck your pfp is amazing

[vballen in reply to langedechu]

AHHHH!!! thank you sooo much. that picture is from like 2 years ago ahah. the only I have saved on my computerrrr.

[langedechu in reply to vballen]

thank you for reading it lol it was just me venting... ok and like even though it's old I'm sure you're still gorgeous haha

[Sabio77]

vballen , thank you for sharing. i have really strict parents too. in some ways it is a blessing and in other ways its kinda hard. i can relate. have you tried talking to them about how you feel?

[vballen in reply to Sabio77]

hey! uhm yes i have. trust me they do not listen

[Sabio77 in reply to vballen]

how are you doing

[vballen in reply to Sabio77]

im doing better. thank you for asking.

[Junella]

I am an "old" lady now, but remember being a teen and having parents not know what I was experiencing. I think you are in better shape than I was feeling isolated, anxious, etc. I certainly didn't have a car! I suspect you have much to be thankful for.

Know that it will pass, but be sure not to do anything foolish in the meantime that you will regret. I had a sister more than 15 years older and she got married at 15 to an older man and lived to regret it and died at 23 mostly because of him and her poor choice. This affected my life for the worse. I eventually found help through a spiritual life.

[Junella]

People often react to the way you treat them. Try ignoring the scolding and just smile and say thank you. Works all the time. They may actually stop harassing you!