How can I move forward

[Karma66]

I Am New Here.

How do you get through I guess "situational depression"? For me the death of my spouse is so hard, plus the fact that the days are shorter doesn't help my depression. Does anyone have any advice?

[Hidden]

Hi. The best advice I have is to take things one day at a time and that there are others out there. It helps me to remember that one is not alone. Thanks for sharing and I hope this helps.

[Karma66 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. Believe me I am trying to take it day by day, and do good, but here lately, I feel like I taken 5 steps backwards. I appreciate you replying.

[Hidden]

Hey there! My advice to you is to remember that you are not alone. I know that losing someone close to you is very hard, but you still have family, friends, and of course, us (this forum). I would recommend taking things slow; one step at a time. I promise you that it will be okay; things will get better. They have for me. Having faith is what can keep you going. And also, if you ever need anything, don't be afraid to ask. We are here for you.

[Agora1]

Karma66, I am so sorry for the loss of your spouse. My heart goes out to you.

As "Andrea2d" stated, "Time" is what you need right now. There is no short cut

to grieving. Talking with a Grief Counselor can help you express your pain and emotions as well as coming on this safe site. There are many others like yourself going through the same journey of loss.

I am glad you are with us right now. We care xx

[Karma66 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you for replying.

[Esda]

I am new here too. Sorry for your loss.

[Karma66 in reply to Esda]

Thank you. I am new to the whole talking and expressing myself outwardly. I have always kept things in, and finally at 54 they are all coming out. What Im talking about is my mothers death in 1999, I drank myself stupid and didn't want to feel that pain. Now in 2020 with the death of my wife, and not wanting to drink anymore all these feelings are flooding me. I have a doctor appt. soon to reevaluate meds and go from there.

[Esda in reply to Karma66]

That’s a good start - talking it out.

[Hidden]

People dying on you is hard to take. Grief is a process. Good friends are important to have, I think especially as you get older. I'm 50 and my forties have been so rough. Some close relatives passing away on me, my parents are hovering near 80 now, and I nowhere near have my shit together like I hoped I would at this point in my life. I feel for you. I have no retirement savings or anything. Mid life crisis time is serious and no one ever really prepares you for it.