Let's Be Gentle On Ourselves

Just heard a great quote, "Comparison is the thief of joy." (President Theodore Roosevelt) I constantly put myself down and wish I was "normal" like my old friend so-and-so who has a seemingly great life, and why me, and I wish, I wish....and I do wish for better health for me and everyone on this site. But I want to be gentler with myself too. Be gentle with yourself as though you are taking care of that inner little boy or little girl. What would you tell him or her when they come to you with fear, sadness and loss of hope. Be gentle and have a great night or day, wherever you are in the world. 🕊

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It's the typical why do bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people. I have an ex friend of 13 years that was a user and has a great life. My sister says she doesn't, everybody has something. I said, I know what's going on in her life and she has it made. In my ex friends, we may like to think she doesn't really have it all, because it makes us feel better. I've seen many people in my life with great families, well adjusted. Of course every family has their normal ups and downs, and I wish I had that. My family could be a psychological case study. Psychologist do not even know how I'm not on drugs, was even able to concentrate in school, go to college. I fit the profile of someone that should be an alcoholic, on drugs, and/or a drop-out. Therapists through my life look at me in amazed that I'm seemingly normal. People that don't know my story would be in absolute shock. It is hard to understand why all of this has happened to me ( out of my control). The one thing my life has taught me thought is to hear any people's stories, no matter how shocking, and it not phase me. I can be compassionate in most situations. Not all, but most that the typical person couldn't handle or would judge harshly. Yes, people are cruel. The world is cruel.

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The world needs more of you

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So true thanks for sharing, its terrible that we seem programmed to be our own harshest critics ,I found when I stepped back and looked at myself as I look at others I saw someone I liked and could really trust so I'm starting to live more happily and serenely with myself and yes gentleness is such a lovely soft warm word ,I hope we can come to be gentle in our dealings with ourselves cos it will simply feel good ,a gentle touch a gentle word is such a beautiful thing ,it gives a glow of light that harshness kills ,let's keep our gentle light burning for ourselves and all those we touch ,with gentleness should come peace in these tough unsettled times,

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So true.

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I probably should have put that second response into a direct message. It's a book. Maybe I had to let it out. People who know about me just look at me like a dear in headlights. And if I hear that I live in the past, I think I'm going to choke that person. The past lives within me through my depression. PTSD etc...which makes it present. I don't go around blaming, but, an apology and acknowledgment would be great. Anyhow thanks for your support and kindness. Love to therapists. Not sure how you all do it. ( I believe you said you were a therapist at one point).