Got dumped, support apppreciated

[Wowzerzzz]

Yep my boyfriend broke up with me. Yep the same one I was talking about going long distance with in my last post. He said he just lost feelings for me and doesn’t see a future with me anymore. It really sucks and I feel my anxiety slowly rising because he’s the one I’d talk to about everything. I’m trying to keep myself busy but that can only work for so long. This my first time being broken up with so any support/advice is appreciated

[lofi_cat]

Damn, break-ups suck -- I'm sorry. I don't have any great advice, except to say that I've gone through several break-ups in my life, and it always feels like I'll never make that kind of connection with anyone ever again, but it turns out we're much more resilient than we think! Also, I believe that it is important to let yourself feel whatever pain or anger you're feeling -- don't bury yourself in work too much, it might help you get through a rough patch but it also delays dealing with your emotions and moving on.

[argh52]

I'm sorry. That sucks. Give yourself permission to grieve the loss of this relationship. Grief really is the right word. It hurts, but we've all been there and we've all gotten through it.

[PastelPink20]

Booooooo. That does suck. I’m sorry you’re experiencing this loss. It’s understandable that you’d grieve.

Practice self compassion!

1. Give yourself a hug. Acknowledge that you’re hurting. That it’s hard.

2. Remind yourself that other people experience this as well. It’s universal - the need for community, heartbreak, loneliness, loss. You are not alone.

3. Speak kind words to yourself in a reassuring soft tone! I’m going to be okay. It’s difficult situation. I am loved. I have special skills. I will grow from this.

Self-careeeeeeee: Make sure to eat, sleep, bathe. Distractions help when they can but not all the time. Call, text, spend time with people who care about you. Play and do fun things! Find ways to release your feelings but not cater to them in a way that’s harmful. Take a bubble bath! Go on walks! Buy that special treat you enjoy! Put on that outfit you look amazing in!

It’s devastating. You watch movies, listen to songs, see art all depicting what it feels like. You think you know... until you experience it. It takes some patience, time, and forgiveness to heal!!! Give yourself a lotta love! You deserve it. Ask for help and look out for yourself if you can.

😊😊💕

[PastelPink20 in reply to PastelPink20]

I also find it helps to be able to: be sad. Talk to someone about the things you’ll miss. Have someone who reminds you you’ll be okay. And have a friend that you can get angry about it with and go on a little rant. Idk.