unable to let go?

[svtmia]

I’ve been feeling pretty awful the last few days, especially because of being ignored by my ex. Although we aren’t together anymore we’ve been staying in contact, which I’ve especially needed since I’ve started at college and have only one friend, and talking to him has been a great source of comfort for me - yet recently he’s started complaining that we talk too much and now has started ignoring my messages altogether. I don’t want to seem clingy as he clearly wants to move on but it really hurts and I wish he’d just tell me why he’s refusing to talk to me, I still feel like we’ve had no closure and all I can think about is talking to him, I check my phone for messages an unhealthy amount of times when I’m supposed to be working and I’m not sure how to get out of this slump, I feel like I’m anxiously grabbing for any person in my life and trying to surround myself with people who clearly don’t want to be there. Am I really that awful of a person?

[ceelovestea]

You are not an awful person. I may not understand 100% but I was in a similar situation. I felt so alone and unworthy. You are more than enough and you didn’t do anything wrong. In my situation, time really did heal the wounds. I tried to work on myself and my ex came and talked to me when he saw I was doing good. Trying to be friends, but by then, I realized I was ok and we needed to move on. Closure is something I always wanted out of certain relationships and I never got them. I just realized that some things are better just ending. Sending lots of love and support your way if you ever need to talk, I’m here ❤️

[icebear_ramen]

ik im in a similar situation. i moved out of my home country and came to a new country. most of my friends were international students and went back to their hometowns. the only people left in mylifewere my boyfriend and myroommate. my bf also was an exchange student who went back so we decided to talk to each other, not as a couple but until we have the strength to move on. i feel like he is already moving on. he stopped looking at the insta dms i send. he ignores my texts and my calls and I feel like he has his own life going on rn. every night i stay up all night and sleep during days so I can wait for his text( cause of time difference). but I feel it. he is already moved on and now I only have my roommate. it sucks cause he was one of the only people who understood me and now its come down to me waiting for hours for him to text back a gif or "kk". i don't think ure an awful person. i just think we need to find something new in our lives to focus on. i tried finding new friends. the problem is I'm not social and get intimidated easily. anyways if u have the strength u should try finding new people to spend time with cause ifeel like that would help. also it sucks to be the one to move one last. it certainly does for me.

[svtmia in reply to icebear_ramen]

i felt this so much we really are in a similar situation and it’s so hard when you feel like you’re the one left behind and they’re moving on. i’m also an unsocial person and i find it really hard to make friends which is why it’s such a struggle to lose someone i once considered my closest relationship but you’re right we need something new to focus on and i’ll definitely try focusing on other things, i hope it gets better for you

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I know how this feels. It’s so hard especially holding onto someone who doesn’t want to talk to you. Just know you only have control over yourself and how you react to things and handle them. Find a new hobby you enjoy and stick with it. Keep yourself busy!