Good morning all.
I’m just waking up in a separate room from my husband because we don’t get along. I have a stomach ache and a solid anxiety. I keep telling myself that I’m going to work on me, you know, eat healthy, exercise, get enough sleep. Then I eat fatty rich food, drink wine, procrastinate on working out, indulge in the negative self talk and hate myself for being in this situation.
How do I overcome these bad habits. I know I should..
Best advice is baby steps or you be overwhelmed, pick one thing and concentrate on that to begin with😊
Good suggestion, I just got back from a walk. I saw and heard tons of birds. An oasis of joy in my day. Thank you.
I totally get it. I sleep in another room and it's been a horrible marriage. 2 adult daughters who live at home. My situation is my husband uses Coke and I have asked him to leave and get help. It's a sad situation. I want to start over..I'm scared..
I’m scared too. How long have you been married?
25 years here.
30 years..together 32. I just never realized how bad it was till a few years ago. It's like I "woke" up!
I'm not so much scared of being by myself, I want to keep my home that my parents helped with us financially. ..long story. I spoke to a lawyer and great friends who have gone through divorces and said get what you can from the bastard. I wasn't going to at first but decided that I put up with so much that I deserve everything, I worked my ass off, (had my own business) put $$ in bank, and he'd take $$ out to blow up his nose. We have to get tough, if not than we'll be more depressed.
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Hi
As Sunflower xxxx said start with one thing, for example the exercise (like the walk you had today) once you do something for 21 days it becomes a habit and then it just becomes automatic, you don't have to even think about doing it, you just do.
And about living with a husband you don't get on with, I'm the same, and I'm sure a lot of my physical and mental symptoms are due to me not doing what I know I should do.
Good luck x
My first thought is take one or two steps at a time. If you want to work out you can chart it for motivation as you try to improve your running time or other workouts. You can record what food you eat because when you are more aware as you record you will probably pick out healthier foods ( that’s been how it goes for me anyway like if I know I have to write it I am more wanting to be proud of my accomplishments). What is most important to you or what is it that you feel more bad about- start with that in little steps. Best to you!!! You are inspiring me to get back on track too, so thank you!!!
Dont beat yourself up. Those habits are packaged with your depression. Everyone here has done or is doing those exact same things. Once my depression lifted I no longer had habits like those. Sertraline and levothyroxine takes away the depression/anxiety for me.
Hi, I split up with someone I was with for 20 years. We don't have any kids. Now, I am unfortunately living in my parents basement, and I'm about to turn 50 on top of it, and I'm out of work these days, yup, I know, not good to say the least!!!!!! I have absolutely NO advice, but you can bring your wine and your misery over and hang out with me and just chill and we can compare who's life is more dismal and pathetic!!!!!!😁😁😄
I admire you getting out of a bad relationship. Who cares if your in the basement, you had the strength to get out. I admire you. Certainly jealous of your strength
Thank you, however I am well aware of how for a lot of people it isn't very easy to just get out, especially when people have financial problems and children together. And I'm pushing my luck being at my parents place like this, they really deserve to have their house to themselves. I really have nowhere else to go and not much money.
It sounds like you know what you need to do...and that’s a great start! Just keep trying and don’t give up. Anxiety can ruin relationships. It ruined all of mine and now I’m alone. Cherish what you have! You can do this..have faith in yourself 🌺
I’m in a separate room too. How do we find the strength to leave?
Should I \"get over it\" 
Should I better die?! 
Should I talk to someone? 
Should I be concerned 
What should I do to heal? 
