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Should I or shouldn’t I?

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I’m still feeling down. In regards to my last post, should I message this guy and get everything off my chest or just block and delete? I feel I have so much to say and that I want him to know but then I feel it’s all pointless.

I’ve had dark thoughts lately and it’s unsettling; I have so much on my mind.

Just ranting. Hope everyone is well.

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BrownEyesBlue

I didn’t jump in to bed with him quickly. I thought I specified in my post that we had talked for months. He was working away so the majority of this relationship was online/telephone/FaceTime. We did meet yes, and it wasn’t until meeting up a few times that I went to his home and slept with him. I DONT just jump into bed with people right away. And I thought I knew him and what his intentions were and that’s why I’m still so hurt.

Even now. I’m hurting a lot and I just want all the pain to stop.

in reply toBrownEyesBlue

Its obvious you really thought you knew him and didn’t want to rush in to having sex. Hypercat just wants you to be wary thats all as there are some guys who want to deceive women even over a long time as they play a 'long game'. You didn’t jump in to bed, we know that. Your hurt will go soon. Please give yourself time away from this man. Be decisive so that you can heal xxx

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Thank you.

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NoHoWarrior

Another option is to write a letter to him. Pour your heart out. Really dig deep and say it all. Say everything you want to say to him. Then do something symbolic with the letter.... bury it.... burn it.... do it with intention and purpose of closure. Finality.

Your mental health is what is important here. Not him.

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BrownEyesBlue in reply toNoHoWarrior

Thank you for your kind words ❤️

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Laykonyde

Sorry about how u feel.

If I were you, feeling the way I am, I would just speak to him and get it over with.

Sometimes talking about stuff can be a wonderful path leading to great healing.

Wish u the very best.

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BrownEyesBlue in reply toLaykonyde

I feel like it’s all bottled up. I’ve written letters. I’ve cried it out. But I feel like if I don’t tell him it’s unresolved, if that makes any sense. I know it’s pointless and it will do no good. I tried once before and I feel he views me as some broken, fragile creature who is absolutely crazy. And it KILLS me when he thinks he knows me better than I know myself. He doesn’t know me at all. I’m just so hurt and feel so taken advantage of. And my biggest question is “what’s wrong with me?”

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Laykonyde

Hi BrownEyesBl,

I might not know how u feel but I wanna say this, his opinion on you doesn't really matter to be honest. Who cares about what he thinks. If you feel like getting this off your chest you might wanna talk to him and then move on. You deserve someone who really knows you and not someone who thinks they know u but they don't.

Nutters who take advantage of us shouldn't be near us. You are a great person. He doesn't deserve you lassie.

🤗

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BrownEyesBlue in reply toLaykonyde

Thank you ❤️ He’s not worth anymore of my time.

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Laykonyde

You are so welcome.

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