TW: Abuse
I'm posting here again. I got better, well better from what I was before. I don't cut anymore, but still think about it every now and then, especially when I'm angry. That's cause I'm impulsive. Anyway, I'm considering on leaving the house and staying at my grandparents.
It's so hard to have so much patience, to be considered a "good daughter" when your own father is acting childish, is narcissistic, egotistical, immature, and have anger issues and tend to be very aggressive when angry. I mean, how do you expect me to respect this kind of person just because he's older than me and is my father?! I'm trying so hard not swear right now. That's not how family should work, I shouldn't feel obligated to respect him just bc he's my father.
In the past he did physically abused me(stomped on me, he punched my brother etc) and my mother back when I was in 9th grade. He did it when he was drunk or just very angry. In time, he doesn't do it anymore. Doesn't mean he's not verbally abusing us(me and my brother) though. He's just so toxic I'm getting tired of it, it's draining me. He once even discouraged me about my ability/talent. Which I'm pretty sure he doesn't remember anymore. Because that's how abuse work, the abuser couldn't (or won't) remember his faults, because he's not the one who got affected by it, he's not the one who got hurt. Recently he throw a small but hard object(i didn't see what it was) at me, fortunately it didn't hit me.
The worst thing is, sometimes when I talked back at him and say something hurtful, I still feel guilty, I still feel bad. Even though that's far from what he'd done to me/us. He is a bad person, he's so closed-minded and egotistical that he can't see his own flaws, and when we(me and my mother) talk to him about it, about changing, he just brush it off as if he's not doing anything wrong, which is so asshole-thing to do. But at times, I remember his good deeds. Not much but they're there.
And the other thing that makes me even angrier, is that the way he interact with other people, other than me and my brother, is like he's a normal, decent person. Like he's being a jerk to us on purpose.
So yeah, came here to just vent about it, hoping it'll make me feel a lil better.